i need you, August 2020 Brides.

View Quoted Comment Awe ❤️Great point that what truly matters is we’ve found our people. Hard to think we may not get some of those things leading up to it!

I'm getting married August 15th and we're suppose to send out invited this week!! How are y'all updating your guest is anything happens. I'm also thinking of adding a note in the invitations that says "the wedding is still on as of right now, but plans can change. please check the website for any questions." What's a better way to word? What do you guys think about my idea? I'm suppose to be taking my nursing boards soon... and with all of this plus wedding planning, I'm kinda freaking out.

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What exactly are y'all saying in the note? I'm trying to find the right wording for our invites, since they have to be sent out SOON.

View Quoted Comment Do you have a lot of guests? maybe you could add them all to a group message or something informal just for updates. Thats what I'm doing. I'm supposed to get married August 6th but I haven't sent out invitations because we still dont know what's going to happen. we're leaning toward postponing for next year because even if its "safe" by August we won't really know until people start gathering in big groups again and I dont think I want my family exposed to that trial and error period 😬

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"In light of the current situation surrounding COVID-19 we are continuing with our wedding as planned. If things do not improve we may need to make the difficult decision to postpone. We will be making a final decision in June and will contact you if anything changes. Please RSVP with the thought that all will have settled by then. Rest assured, we will have your bests interests in mind when making decisions" With love- Bride & Groom

View Quoted Comment We have a LOT of guest 😔. I was thinking of postponing but our vendors are waiting month by month...

View Quoted Comment Oh no 😔 I'm sorry that must make this even more difficult. Hopefully they work with whatever your decision is

Our destination wedding is August 29th in.....Italy. Our venue keeps asking us to wait for new updates but even if the global lockdown lifts will international travel be allowed, will people even want to travel and most importantly will it be safe?

What are you guys thinking now? We're getting married August 8th, and I swear one day I'm positive and I hear things that make me think everything will go as planned, and then the next day I hear something negative and have a super bad day. We are getting married on my FH's parents property and so we don't have a venue to worry about, I just worry about having to postpone the vendors and how stressful that will be. I'm kind of freaking out.

View Quoted Comment Mine is August 22nd and we still have SO much left to do including my dress and with all the anxiety this is causing me I think we are postponing till next year and just getting eloped on our original date!! I just worry that if I wait any longer to make our decision the harder it’s going to be.

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@McKenzie - I feel you. I'm supposed to be getting married August 1st, but with the new phases for "Reopening America" I have NO IDEA how long each phase will actually last. I just emailed my venue coordinator again, because even if hypothetically there was a phase 2 during that time, we would still be either on the hook for all those guests who couldn't show up (that phase limits gatherings to 50 people), OR pay up-charge fees for next year.

This is literally impossible to plan for. No one knows or can even project how long each phase will last. I think if we get too comfortable too soon, it could be real bad again.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree, I’m definitely just trying to stay hopeful, but also keeping in the back of my mind that we could very well have to postpone 😭

We are August 28th and at this time planning to moving ahead...trying to stay hopeful. We’ve both said no matter what, we will still become husband and wife that day. If we have to move the reception to a later day, than that’s what we will do. But, becoming married is very important to us.

View Quoted Comment Same here, I am also on 8/29. I have contacted all my vendors on this and several have stated August should be ok

I am so happy that I found this board. I have been panicking over here. I live in NYC, and we're supposed to have our wedding on August 21st. Our governor believes we've gone past the plateau, but I mean it's still pretty bad here. I have no idea what to do. I've called my venue, and they told me to wait about a month before we reassess. They were currently working with all brides for April and May to reschedule their weddings. I haven't ordered my invitations yet because I don't know what's what. If I do order them and send them out, but then we find out that we can't have that many people (we have 150 being invited), how do I tell people they all of a sudden can't come? Before the virus started, I was calm and not worrying about anything, but since it hit big time in NYC, I've been nothing but stressed and sad.

View Quoted Comment I'm so sorry this situation is bringing you so much stress😔 We haven't sent our invitations because we honestly don't see any point since we don't know whats going to happen. At this point we have a plan to get married next august if things aren't better by end of may this year.

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How can your venue charge you for guests you're legally not allowed to have? I would dispute that. Our venue is being understanding and flexible...

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That is so stressful. Could you work with your venue/vendors about a Plan B? I would probably think about putting together a Plan B, especially in New York... Maybe a neighboring state on the same date? Or a later date on reserve?

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I think I'm starting to get to that mindset for a plan B. It just sucks. It all just sucks. My venue will absolutely work with me. We might just have a super small ceremony and then maybe do the full reception at another point. I don't know, but it is something we need to start talking about.

View Quoted Comment A lot of venues have a minimum amount you have to spend on food (ex. our min is $12,500, which we wouldn't reach with 50 people). But if you're not legally allowed to invite a number of people that would make you reach the minimum (without feeding everyone twice), they should have to either reduce what you're paying them or let you postpone without a fee.
You should check your contract to see if there's a force majeure clause, or something about what happens if there's "an act of God" that prevents the venue from being able to fulfill the contract. If you told them you would have at least 125 people, but because of things outside of your control you can only have 50, this probably qualifies.