i need you, August 2020 Brides.

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My wedding is on August 29th but we haven’t decided if we are going to pospone the wedding. Big decision we will made in June🥺

View Quoted Comment Hi Kaylynne,
My bridal shower was canceled on April 4th. My sisters, bridesmaids, and a few family members had a zoom bridal shower. It was nice to have a mini celebration, but I was still sad we couldn’t celebrate in person. I like the idea of virtual events but I don’t feel like they should replace the actual event. My sisters still hope to have my bridal shower once it is safe. We’re also figuring out what to do with the bachelorette in July. What are your plans? What are your backup plans that you mentioned?

We're planned for August 1st and I am honestly in the same boat as you. We're holding off on any invites and reassessing mid May. Such a bummer because I feel so many people will still be scared to go.

I am right there with all of you. We have an August 1st wedding, which we put together really quickly after getting engaged at the end of January so that we could have the wedding and move on to babies. Right now we have everything taken care of except for invitations, dress alterations, suits, and final decor details, so every vendor is already locked in. We are really on the fence in terms of what to do and our wedding planner is encouraging us to wait until at least mid-May to make any decisions with the hope we will have a bit more clarity about how reopening will roll out. I think rescheduling to next year would be a logical choice right now because even if things are open it seems unlikely it will be a normal wedding experience. Unfortunately for us we are at the age where if we want babies we have to start making that a reality. So, postponing would be a bit shift in our plans and move our wedding out a few years, which is not what I wanted or imagined. I am tempted to try to secure a fall date but with the suggestions that there may be a lull and then a reemergence in the fall I am nervous that moving it to fall wouldn't end up being any safer. The uncertainty around all of it is just terrible though, one day I feel okay about it and the next I feel really down. It's also a weird thing because I feel like a jerk being sad about the wedding when so much more serious stuff is happening. Ugh, definitely not the wedding experience I imagined.

Hi! I'm an August 22nd bride. I have made the decision to cancel my wedding and will be calling up the venue First. Thing. Tomorrow. Word to the wise....check your contracts, especially those of you who have a force majore clause. No one ever anticipated something this detrimental happening, and you have less leeway with a force majore clause. You're basically at the mercy of the venue and your bargaining power may be shot to hell because they've legally stated you are still required to make your payments given ANY situation. After talking to my fiance and parents who have already gifted us money towards the venue rental, we're canceling while 1) The Venue hasn't shut down and gone out of business (let's face it, the impact of this will leave some venues paralyzed when it's all said and done), 2) There's an opportunity to prevent any more money having to be shelled out to multiple vendors when we don't know exactly what social gathering/events will look like in 4 months, and 3) I don't want my parents out of any more money. We have a guest list of 250. I can't continue to move forward without putting their safety first, nor am I willing to gamble on the cost for guests who decide not to show at the last minute (if we can move forward) because they're still worried about how safe it is to resume with gatherings (which is a legit excuse). One of my bridesmaids lives in Brooklyn and both she and her husband contracted 'Rona - it's not a game out of there. You have to focus on the real reason for the occasion, the 2 of you! I suggest you have a small ceremony in front of those that matter this August. That way you can continue to save your coins, cut your losses, and turn your 1 year anniversary next August into a bomba$$ reception and party! That's our plan!!

I am August 1st also. I am approaching the planning optimistically as we have secured everything early. The only thing we have left to do is pick flowers which we've already discussed virtually, purchase favors, and send invites. Most of our guests are local so we plan to wait until late May or early June to order the invites from Minted and then send them out. I spoke with my venue today (in VA) and sounds like they are only rescheduling people who had a wedding in March through June 10th (VA has stay at home orders until then).

I am trying to be positive but realistic. If we can only have 50 people, then we can only have 50 people. If we can't have any guests, then it will just be us 2 and the officiant and we will be married. 8/1 is our 5 year dating anniversary and it is just a very special day. I am not postponing to have a large party because a wedding (in my opinion!) is not for show and is not for other people but for the bride and groom. FH's family is being a little negative and sounds like they are pushing for us to postpone so they can enjoy the big party in the future, which honestly bugs me because they have contributed nothing to any of the payments (over 20k has been spent so far, with about 10 more k to go). I worked so hard to pay for my dress and don't want my dress sitting in the closet for a year and I picked bridesmaids dresses that have a great rewearability factor so my friends can wear them to a different event in the future.

It'll be weird if it's a small thing because I have envisioned a really big, LIT fun event, but it can still be lit and fun if it's just us 2 in an empty ballroom. I am a teacher and picked up 2 extra jobs (after school and on the weekends) in the fall to help pay for all the expenses. Basically we have worked hard in the planning and mentally I can't handle waiting another year (i waited soooo long for him to ask, in my opinion, but that's another story, LOL) so i just want to be married.

My venue and vendors have been reassuring and whatever happens, happens up to this point. We can't control what's going to happen nor do we know. It could get worse, but it could also get better. So we'll continue to plan as we have (really just waiting to make final payments for things in July) and if we need to adjust, we'll adjust.

Whew, sorry that was long. But sending hugs to everyone. It's important not to get too caught up in pessimism which is really easy to do right now. Not being ignorant of all that's happening, but things CAN get better even if it's not exactly what you pictured (ie 50 guests v 100). We don't know what's going to happen and it sounds like we have all invested so much that it is too soon to throw in the towel now. As long as we all do our part to stay home now, we might have a good outcome later. Sending hugs!

We are getting married August 28th and currently are going to proceed as planned for right now. My wedding dress finally came in to the bridal boutique I bought it from and we have almost all of our planning is complete minus the invitations and food tasting. So much can change in 4 months, but we are keeping our fingers crossed that everything gets better! This is such a stressful time but together we will all make it through this!

I honestly see the worst case scenario as having to reduce the guest size, which I am totally okay with. I just can’t picture a scenario where we are STILL completely shut down in August, and I am in NY! I fear more about my honeymoon in Italy, which I am almost positive we will have to postpone to next year.

We are on a holding pattern our wedding is September 11 however it is in Ireland. I have secured a second date for May 2021. As much as I want to be positive the reality is travel won’t be the same for some time and most folks will feel uncomfortable including myself. We will make a final decision in May.

August 8, here!! We're still planning to get married that day. Luckily we're only expecting about 100 people so if there's a gathering limit by then, we're hoping that we're well under the limit! We are also still planning on mailing our invitations out next month.....right now, I'm super worried about our honeymoon!

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I completely agree with you! I just can't imagine being in lockdown for 5-6-7 months! I'm also worried about our honeymoon, we have everything booked and paid for in Jamaica! If we can't go, we'll also be postponing until next year. Do you have a lot of family asking you about cancelling/postponing?

I would hold off and wait to see what happens beginning July! It also depends where you live. My new wedding date is 7/18! I’m staying hopefully because Houston, Tx isn’t bad and making a decision in June

View Quoted Comment We invited 250 guests, and they are feeling pessimistic about it, which is frustrating! Hang in there... I think we will be okay! And the honeymoon will be even MORE exciting If there is some extra wait time

View Quoted Comment Hey! This is so crazy my wedding is also August 6th!! I’m over here stressed out as well and i’m not exactly sure as what we should do.

View Quoted Comment Hey date twin! I wrote this last month and now that its the end of April we've had a lot of time to talk this over and we're leaning toward postponing for August next year. It's just safer this way and honestly we found a lot of benefits to postponing

August 8th wedding here. I personally think we will be fine. I don't want to make any rash decisions until at least June. My fiancé thinks we should reschedule for next year. But I still want to wait. I've already send out save the dates. And ordered things with that date on it. I think our plan B should be to still get married that day and have a reception later if need be. But I really think us August people will be okay! I'm staying positive! 😃

August 29th bride over here! With everything going on it’s so hard to make a decision right now. I’ve putting wedding planning on hold till mid-June and then I’ll make a decision if we’ll postpone. The news just doesn’t make me feel optimistic and the last thing I want at my wedding is the conversation to be “coronavirus”. 😔

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It is frustrating! We will have great weddings, no matter what!! And yes, the honeymoon is definitely going to be worth the wait!

View Quoted Comment Same date over here and we are proceeding the exact same way!! ☺️☺️