I really would appreciate your honest opinion or ideas, please and thank you.

Pink fits in perfectly with your colors. I say let them wear the pink ties. It isn't like he is trying to get you to wear a pink dress or trying to get you to change your venue to his grandmother's grave. The ties barely even show in the pictures.

Sorry for your loss, but i am with Mrs. L and Sharon. I have to laugh.. I WANTED my husband and GMs to wear pink ties.. all being bikers, they refused! lol...I honored my FH's wishes and we compromised to wine to match the girls dresses, with him wearing a pink rose and pink ascot to match my dress. I'm happy I didn't make such a hugh stink out of it now, and it turned out lovely in my opinion! He stood out and ll the guys were totally comfortable in what they were wearing to the point they didn't change at all through the reception!

Oh and you will win such brownie points forever with him, because he will be reminded of it every time he looks at your photos and video in how you agreed to let he and his brothers honor someone so close to them!

I am very sorry for your loss.

I have to agree as much as it is your day it is also your FH day, if he attempted to control what you wore, a lot of people would call that being controlling.

My DS only asked me for one thing for the wedding, that the place cards be placed on the tables, as opposed to the cards being picked up at the door. My gut reaction was no, its too much trouble, it is not part of my plan, escort cards are much easier than assigning individual seat placings. But I realized it is his wedding also.

While I do not understand how pink ties = a wedding overpowered with grief, only you know how willing you've been to compromise on the wedding so far. If you've really been doing what he wants, then sure, you have the right to make a demand too. You asked for opinions and ideas, it's totally up to do what you do with them.

Ab Z, I thought we had come to an agreement already, with just the groom wearing the tie... so I had my mind made up! Then he threw this to me, that the gm are so excited about the ties.. My deal is that I feel like he'll try to turn the wedding into Gramma Bev's memorial service. Again, I am not doing so much for my grandparents, though they were just as important as his grandmother. Tonight, he told me about a song they found at Gramma's; he thinks it was her special song with hubby #2. I am expecting him to try to change "our song" to that..

I am okay with Mister wearing the pink, but I don't want everyone too.

I'm sorry, Genevieve, I don't think this pink fits it whatsoever with the colors! I think the tie is an awful, awful color! If it was a much lighter, pastel pink, I may be more inclined to say yes without hesitation. I just feel there are different ways we can do this.

Thanks, all!

If you want it to be YOUR DAY. Find a way to marry yourself. Otherwise learn to ompromise.

If you want it to be YOUR DAY. Find a way to marry yourself. Otherwise learn to compromise. Oh...now I see your other comments. Meh, there just ties. It's not like he's making YOU wear pink. Do you dress him and his freinds veryother day? Why should you get to now? Let it go the stress isn't worth the ties.

If you want it to be YOUR DAY. Find a way to marry yourself. Otherwise learn to compromise.

Ayla, I think I have compromised quite a bit. I don't feel that it is MY day, but I don't think it's all HIS either! Thanks for the note.

I would have to set let him. If you blend it right pink won't look bad with your other colors. Try doing the Dress Your wedding scene on Davids Bridal site and see if you can make it look good. Honestly even if it did clash I would say let him. It may have been different if she passes a while ago but at the time of your wedding it will still be fresh

I really do believe that if a man tried to control what a woman, be it the bride or bridesmaid, wore on a wedding day, the man would be called controlling.

I see that you have mentioned that you have made a lot of compromises to please him and that the color really doesn't appeal to you. However try to make a list of things that he has compromised for YOU or other things you might even consider re-negotiating to let him have this. If you talk to him about this - tell him the overall picture from your perspective, don't make it just about the ties.

I (sorry!) have to disagree that guys in pink ties will overshadow your day with grief. I think excessive black or large portraits of the woman would be over the top, but who else would guess that pink ties are their acknowledgement of the grandmother? What do your FIL's think?

I agree with some of the things Anna B. said, but with the fall colors it is kind of important that the pink does not clash! I'm on your side here.

I like the ides of the hankies and/or socks, especially the socks bc it would make cute pictures.

It sounds to me that you have given him a lot of what he wanted for your wedding

Yes, of course you will need to compromise and also negotiate,this is good practice for a great marriage. Wishing you a wonderful marriage.

Could you possibly put a pink ribbon in their bouts? That way they have a little pink, but it isn't overwhelming?