I sent a save-the-date and now want to un-invite a couple. Is this possible?

Probably just invite them. If they feel the same as you, they will send a decline.

I mean technically with etiquette you can't not invite them. But also there are no etiquette police who are going to come in and cancel the wedding if you don't invite them. If you don't think you'll be in contact again & you are OK with that I think it's fine, just know you might officially end the friendship by doing so.

Abby,

You have plenty of time until you have to send out your invites. I think that you should just play it by ear for a while and see if they contact you. I wouldn't make any other contact and see where it goes. If things change and they just might then I would invite them but if not I would just allow them to vanish into the air and not worry about inviting them. Again you have many months before your invites have to go out. Besides then might respond with a no anyway, which makes it all the easier..

Best wishes, take care, Happy Planning

What GameCox said. And find another makeup artist.

Definitely invite them. And more importantly, get a new MUA

Thanks all. I think I will wait and see if they contact us again, and I may still invite them. And I definitely will book a MUA!

Honestly, I'm probably the rebel of the bunch here on WW. If I don't like something, I don't do it... and eff what "society" or "etiquette's" think. If I do, and it's a faux paux, I'll probably still do it. I mean, I may put it out here for a general consensus or maybe even an idea I haven't thought of it, but at the end of that day *I* have to live with the decisions I make, not anyone here at WW. They are not going to have to deal with "so b*tch cousin I had to invite", or "some so-called friend cause she got the STD". I guess what I am saying is DO what YOU wanna do, and who cares what anyone else thinks. If YOU don't feel comfortable, then there's your answer. Rules, guidelines, etiquette.... it's all there as a proper suggestion. And providing everything goes *right*, then fine But, there's always that ONE, isn't there? And I, personally ,don't care who I offend. It's MY day, and I am not going to be distracted or have any joy or peace taken away because etiquette dictates cause I sent a freakin STD I *have to* invite this person whom I don't even want to pick up the phone to call?!? Where's the logic in that??

I would still invite them. Don't chase them down for a RSVP if they don't respond. But since you sent them a std, I think you should follow up with an invite. Someone I went to school with told me and my friend to save the date (more than once) for his wedding and we did but never got an invite. My friend asked him when the invite would be coming he said his guestlist was really tight. We thought it was rude that he didn't say anything to us and that we had to ask because we were actually saving the date. We even booked our vacation keeping his wedding date in mind so we wouldn't miss it. I think it would be rude to just not invite them, eventhough you aren't as close as you thought you would be by this point. If you want to uninvite them, tell them that you can't have as many people as you originally wanted to and that your sorry and hope they understand. I think in my situation what bothered us wasn't the fact that we weren't invited, it' was that he didn't say anything to us at all about us not being invited anymore after he told us to save the date. We would have understood.

Send an invite without an rsvp lololol

Are you sure "Ashley" isn't your "friend"? I'm sorry, this is just too weird.....

I was thinking the same thing! Also, there was another post a few weeks ago about someone who sent an STD to a student/friend and then changed their mind and didn't want to invite them because they fell out of touch.

Okay, now I need to see these posts, you gals have me curious! lol

I highly doubt they're the same person. I am honestly more sad about the fact that they don't want to be friendly with us. Oh well.

Find a new make-up artist, and send an invitation anyway. They'll likely decline, and if they don't ... then it probably won't make much of a difference having them at your wedding.

I have a similar problem, it’s my daughters wedding. The std was sent to a friend of her fiancé, not a close friend, but a friend. This person started a rumor that my daughter and her soon to be husband were in an open relationship which started a little trouble, now my daughter cannot stand him. I don’t want him to ruin the day, but looks like most people are saying invite him anyway

You don’t send the invites until two months before the wedding. I would say have no more contact if they reach out to hang out with you and things continue to go well and you get closer then maybe invite them. But if you cut off contact and they don’t reach back out to you. I say don’t send the invite. It’s your wedding day and at the end of the day the people that attend your wedding are supposed to be your closest supporters and people that you want to witness this very important moment in your life if it’s someone that’s not reaching out to you or having contact with you why would they go to your wedding? I am dealing with the same thing right now with some friends who I make all the contact to hang out conversations are pretty dry lately and if I’m not making contact to hang out, they don’t contact me. I sent them a save the date. But now I’m thinking, if they don’t reach out to me or aren’t receptive to my attempts to hang out then why would I want them at my wedding? So I’m going to do the same thing. I’m not gonna do any outreach to them, and I’m gonna see if they invite me to anything or offered to hang out or ask me about the wedding at all. If they don’t then I won’t send them a wedding invite. if they’re offended or later on say what happened to my invite or ask any details about the wedding a week or two before I’ll just say we haven’t really hung out this year and all of my tabs to hang out with you have gotten an answered, so I didn’t think you were interested in attending the wedding. I’ll put it on them because at the end of the day it’s on them.