My bridal shower was this weekend and it was absolutely beautiful! My MOH and mom did a wonderful job, and were even able to pull off a surprise guest that I didn't think was going to be able to make it which brought me to the happiest of tears.
BUT my FMIL made me feel SO small and so unimportant to her. We've always had our issues but are usually able to put them aside in front of other people. She was constantly asking me what she could do for the shower and I told her that my MOH and mom were planning it an I had no part in any of it so if she wanted to help she should reach out to my mom, (who she has contact information for) and she never did. At the shower my mom gave her a corsage as the Mother of the Groom and made a very kind speech about how happy she was to be gaining FH's family as family.
She did not say hi to me even when I walked over to her table to say hello to everyone seated, I honestly don't think she said 2 words to me the entire party. My cousin sent me pictures of me walking into the party, and they would be SO cute cause I immediately saw the surprise guest and look so shocked and crying, and I see FMIL standing in the exact small path I have to walk in, back turned to me walking in, and then in another one she's completely blocking me, and the last one she's got her phone out trying to show someone a picture (no doubt of my nephew) as I'm entering my shower when all eyes should be on me...
She sat at her table (with her family) and frowned the ENTIRE shower, literally looked like she was at a funeral. I know she 100% didn't want to be there and wanted to be at home cause my FSIL dropped her son off with FFIL to babysit while she was at the shower, and FMIL 100% would have rather been with her grandson.
When I was at another table talking to my FSIL she came up in the MIDDLE of our conversation, I was in the middle of a sentence, doesn't say anything to me but shoves her phone into my FSIL's face to show her a picture of her own son and walks away.
While I was opening gifts she left the room, so she wasn't in the room when I opened hers and I didn't realize until I said "thank you" and realized I couldn't find her. When she walked back in the room I shouted a thank you to her which was ignored, I assumed she couldn't hear me, but people she was walking directly in front of said they heard me so there was no way she didn't hear me. Another thing with the gift, she didn't even get me a gift, couldn't be bothered to pick something nice and thoughtful off our registry, instead wrote a check for $100 in a generic card that she just signed her name to.
During one of the games which was a "guess what the bride to be is wearing" game where everyone had to write down what I was wearing when I left the room, someone must have said I had a diamond ring on, and she SHOUTs to the room "Oh her ring is fake, it's not even a real diamond, its a fake diamond" when I 1) never stated I had a diamond ring, and 2) my ring isn't a fake or real diamond cause it's not a diamond at all its Morganite. So I have 0 clue what she was trying to accomplish there, especially cause her son bought it for me, not like I went out and bought it myself.
And then when my FSIL said she was leaving to go pick up her son and go home my FMIL bolted for the car, didn't say good bye to me or my mom or anyone for that matter, her ride that she came with was waiting for me to be done with a conversation to say good bye, and someone asked FMIL if she was leaving and she said "I'm trying to" really annoyed that her SIL who was her ride was saying goodbye to me. I went outside after that and she was literally sitting in her SIL's car waiting for her, saw me and sent a half wave...
I am no writing thank you cards for the shower, and I literally don't even want to write her one cause she honestly made me so upset that she couldn't just put on a face for 2 hours.
