My BF and I have been together for 13 years... yes, a looong time! We have a house, kids, business, and everything that goes with being married except we have both adamantly stated that we didn’t see the point in having a wedding. I have had an engagement ring since the second year we were together, but never made the effort to go through with plans on actual nuptials. I know..... just silly. Fast forward to our young adult lives and we began talking about it. Finances are great, we have everything we need in life so after covid hit home and his father was very sick ( and recovered, thankfully) we decided to move forward. My reasoning is not only for legal reasons, but mainly because we are lucky to have all of our parents alive and I would like for us to have those memories. I don’t want that regret later on. So January of 2020 we decided that we would do it. At first, I was trying for this August. I then decided it would be better to have it next May because I hate rushing to get things done. We made the announcement to our families and I have wasted no time in getting things done. I mean I am waaayyy ahead of schedule on a lot because once we booked our venue I just got the ball rolling on things.
Before I get into the “bridezilla” moment, let me just give a backstory so that everyone reading this fully understands my thoughts. I am a person that does things alone. I do not ask for help and I am NOT the type to ask opinions of friends when choosing an outfit . I enjoy high fashion, and I rarely follow trends because in my circle I AM the trendsetter (which I hate, because I like to be my own person)
Now let me explain my MIL. (Yes, the wonderful Mother In Law) she is on one hand a loving woman that has raised 4 sons and (according to her) I am her ONLY daughter. On the other hand, she is a woman that has VERY wicked tendencies and enjoys ruining other peoples happiness. I’m not saying this because I think she is that way, I am saying that because she quite literally has done this before my very eyes to others and has bragged about it to me! She is extremely jealous, and spiteful. So now that I’ve said that let’s get into my self proclaimed moment. My Future MIL asks me if she can have 5 invitations for guests. I tell her no, because this was discussed beforehand with my other half because she invited random people to his brothers wedding and there were 10 guests that RSVPd with no seats as a result. (Keep in mind, we are paying for our own wedding and not our families.) I then decide to compromise and tell her she can have 2 invites to which she tells me that she didn’t really want them it was a “test” to see if I would give it to her and I “failed” .... wtf?! Fast forward 3 weeks later (last week) and she announces that she is getting married in September (this year). She then proceeds to ask me to help her plan her wedding (not a typical “renewal of vows” that people who have been married 41 years do, a full on in church, full reception at a hall, wedding) She then asks me to go with her to her appointment to find a dress. So I go because I’m trying to be a supportive, loving, daughter. She didn’t even love the dress she chose, she actually picked it because she seen how much I loved it! This whole thing is killing me because I can’t help but to think she did this out of spite. I have told this to everyone and now I look like the jerk because I’m killing her whole “wedding dream” by voicing the fact that this time is supposed to be about me. I know mine is a whole year away, and I know her wedding is 8 months before mine, but I can’t help but to be upset about it. It sounds petty but I assure you I am typically a very passive person.