i think I'm going to fire my bridesmaids.

"I don't want to have people stand there just for the sake of not having anyone." This is a good instinct (and the advice people are always giving here when brides are trying to decide who to ask), but since you have already asked them, it's too late to go back. Too late, that is, unless you are fine with ending these three friendships.

You say that these are good people and you love them. That should be enough to celebrate a wedding. After your wedding, you can reevaluate and see if you still want these people that you love in your life or not. But as long as they are able to attend your wedding, that is sufficient for bridesmaids.

It's not too late to fire your bridesmaids, but understand that doing so is most likely going to be relationship ending. Are you willing to end it all, and essentially end their friendship?

My bridesmaids are amazing, and have always been with me through thick and thin, but that doesn't mean we talk all the time or something like that. In fact, one of my bridesmaids is someone I probably talk to and meet with like three times a year. I always have to be the first one to contact her. But that doesn't mean I love her any less. In fact, she's helped me a lot when it came to making the bridesmaids bouquets, and without her help my bouquets wouldn't have looked as amazing as they do.

I have a bridesmaid that also insulted the dress choice, my sense of fashion, and the alcohol choices, she was full of complaints, but hey, she's basically my honorary MOH because she busted her ass off to throw me the best bachelorette party sleepover ever.

Maybe your friends just haven't had the time to get excited yet, since your wedding is so far away. Have you tried having a girls night with your bridesmaids, a chance to hang out with them one on one. Just because they have a life, or they don't contact you as much as you'd like, doesn't mean they don't care about you.

I wouldn’t do anything rash, wedding planning is stressful and sometimes it can get the best of us. With close and long term friends, we know the best and not so best characteristics (just as they know ours 😂). I certainly have a list of my own annoying habits or moments where I should have put my foot in my mouth, but at the end of the day, my girls look past my flaws and know I’m there when they really need me. If these three women have supported you at one time or another, hold on to that 🖤 hope this helps in your decision no matter what you decide!!

I say ditch them girl it will relieve a lot of stress. I ran into this exact problem with my MOH I rushed into asking her and almost immediately regretted it. She would make rude comments and pretty much ditched our friendship after I asked her. The one that lives 5+ hours away try zoom. I would give her another chance she seems like it could really work out. She is trying and doing the best she can. If she doesn’t like your dress that’s fine. Keep in mind when you ask them to “step down” the friendship will change.

Everyone here will have varying opinions, but I say it's your wedding, do what makes most sense to you.

Don't make the decision to hastily. Write out the pros and cons first

Thank you ladies, you all make valid points. Wedding planning, a pandemic amongst other things really have me stressed out lol. I'll sit on this one and think about it. I'll come back with an update eventually.

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I think the one that lives furthest would actually be relieved lol her sis told me she's stressing out about having people stare.

Unfortunately this is exactly why I chose not to have any bridesmaids. Of all the weddings I’ve been in and the ones I’ve planned they’re really more hassle than they are help.

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I think I mainly regret it because I've realized how we may be more close acquaintances now than friends. I didn't expect them to really help with wedding stuff or anything. It's just that I don't hear from two of them unless I reach out but they love to claim I am one of their best friends to everyone else. It makes no sense lol

I got engaged in November 2019 getting married June 2022
I’m very happy I took my time by thinking whether I want bridesmaids or not and I choose
Not to! I’m a low key kind of girl. I don’t want the responsibility of asking whether they gotTheirDresses or not I want to focus on me and my FH! If say fire all of them! It’s ur day u have to be selfish and not think ofOthers!

Be aware that if you do fire anyone the friendships will be over.

Tbh I would remove the friend who spoke about SW that way from my entire LIFE. That 💩 doesn't fly with me- bye, girl. It sounds like you've outgrown your friendship with her, I'd move on. Your friend who wants to still go clubbing and stuff a lot also sounds like a friendship you've outgrown. It happens and it's okay. I'd remove them both, knowing it will damage (end) the friendship and feel relieved.


Your 10 year friendship lives far but why remove her? Her only job is to buy the dress and stand with you, her distance only matters if she isn't planning to make it to the wedding. I'd tell her this in a heart to heart, that her only job is to get a dress, maybe get ready with you, walk and stand with you, and hold your bouquet.

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Yea NOT having bridesmaids seems way less stressing than having them. Even if they're YOUR friends they could still hate each other and drama sucks lol.

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If I'm being completely honest I might even feel relieved with 2 of them dropping me completely. I never thought it could come to that.

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Yea I feel like even if the 2 do get upset with me, I don't know how much I'd truly miss the friendships. I might be relieved if they were to drop me completely. My 10yr friendship friend might want to be relieved of her duties in general lol. She has major social anxiety and I totally forgot about it within the excitement. She's the only one I'm truly wanting to stay and only if it's 10000% okay with her and comfortable.

View Quoted Comment I wouldn’t care! Honestly! I’m no type to
Beg for friendships or feeling bad
For others , it’s my wedding at the end of the day. Friends come and go oh well. That’s just me though!

View Quoted Comment Yea you don’t have to deal with that. You come first . You set boundaries they will either respect it and move along or if they feel some type of way I wouldn’t even waste my time. LOL sorry for being harsh but I’m very picky!

View Quoted Comment I get that; my sister will be sitting because they also have anxiety and with them being the only person up there (no groomsmen, no other bridesmaids) they'd feel really uncomfortable being the only one standing besides us, outside the gazebo cause it's small lol. I would feel awkward too 😂😅 So they're my MOH but sitting.


Sounds like it'll be okay- you'll rid yourself of these 2 people and your MOH will be relieved and happy to still get ready and everything with you 💜 Good luck!! ☺️