I think my fiance can't afford the honeymoon and doesn't want to tell me. What should I do?

You don't have to have a honeymoon right away. Many people are waiting to take there's. My fh and I definitely are because we paid for everything ourselves and wanted to get a savings going again

We are spending our first night in the bridal suite we get with our package at our hotel. Maybe just book a room somewhere at a hotel close by for your first night.

I would just start a conversation with something like "We need to decide on a budget for the honeymoon" and go from there. It sounds like you may just need to have a general conversation about finances too. Pretty soon its going to be both of your money instead of his money vs your money so you're going to need to figure out how that is going to work for you two.

This can be tricky, I think you should back off & give him time to make it happen. Let him do what he can, be patient. Don't push it and don't make him feel guilty; somethings just doesn't always work out the way we want it. A honeymoon is a state of mind not necessary a location. Trust & believe that everything will work out.

We are staying at a hotel the night of our wedding. Then going for our honeymoon on Monday.

As for him not having the finances..this is something you two really need to discuss. Fh and I had the financial talk fairly early into our relationship.

I think giving him a little more time like Mrs. Valentine said is a good idea. It is important to talk about finances at some point though. Is it possible he wants it to be a surprise? Does he know you'd be okay with something small?

Don't go on a honeymoon... it's just an old tradition and technically should be a month long, life doesn't allow for that anymore. Take it easy, you don't need the extra pressure. Have a weekend getaway and go somewhere nice when you are settled.

Sounds like he might still be working on it? I know we are still working on getting everything else ready. Our honeymoon will probably be booked closer to the wedding.

We are spending our wedding night in a hotel room at our wedding venue. We probably won't take our honeymoon until June at the earliest due to finances and working around FHs schedule. We honestly can't really afford one right now but we both know that. My mom doesn't get too involved but FHs mom is really pushy about things I feel she doesn't really have a say in (FHs ring, honeymoon, kids, etc). Because of my relationship with my mom I can say, 'The honeymoon is something we need to plan together, and we'll figure it out on our own.' With FHs mom it's not as easy because they're not close and she gets upset over everything.

Anyway, if you're getting married I think this is something you should be able to discuss. You should know where you stand with your finances. If you use your money to book a honeymoon without consulting him at all you both may end up resenting eachother. Just ask him if he has thought about the honeymoon and if he gets funny, ask him if there is an issue - finances, time, etc. If money is an issue, try looking into something a little more local - help you get out of your parents' house but basically just paying for a nice hotel room.

Do it next year, that way you can save up

Do a one year anniversary Honeymoon, we're not going away right away, I want to wait at least 3 months before we go. Just so we can recover from the wedding and save up for the honeymoon. And I don't want to go on vacation in the summer when everybody else is on vacation (especially since most of my freelance work is during the summer).

If you just bought a house together, you probably (should) know how much money was put down on the house, and whether there was any kept aside for emergencies and perhaps wedding expenses. If all your FH's cash/savings were put down on the house, then there's only credit that could possibly be used on his side for a honeymoon (bad idea!). Just ask. It's your finances too now. He's probably worried about your reaction to not having a honeymoon right away, so just put him at ease and figure out what's best, together.

You just bought a house together and you don't know where he stands financially? That seems a little off to me....

You can have a discussion about it without making him feel bad, just chose your words wisely. And if it turns out you guys can't afford a honeymoon right now, find a nice hotel suite for the night of the wedding and start saving for your dream honeymoon.

We are both paying for our honeymoon and our wedding. you should feel comfortable enough to speak freely about your finances. the honeymoon can wait if there is no money in the budget right now.

The wedding night and the honeymoon are generally separate issues anyway. I've never been to a wedding where the couple left for the honeymoon that day. Maybe book somewhere for the wedding night and consider postponing the honeymoon.

You're going to be husband and wife, and now is the time to let him know that he doesn't have to bear the stress of financial limitations by himself. I assume he's feeling like he's going to let you down if he doesn't pull something together, but if he pulls it together by borrowing money or putting it on a credit card, that's something you'll be faced with in the future. That's why you need to talk about now.

It's completely understandable that you want privacy on your wedding night. I'd book a room in a hotel -- even if it's just for the night.

I think it would be a good idea for you both to start putting together your financial data each month (bank printouts) to see where you're spending money and how much you're saving as a couple. Put the data on a spreadsheet and split it into categories (food, mortgage, body corp fees, clothes, etc. etc.). Then have a summary spreadsheet where you can compare the data for each month side by side. I do that and it's honestly very useful (especially since we have separate accounts, but I think it would be useful even if you share an account).

Anyway you should start thinking of it as your money together, not yours and his.

I agree with the other ladies--if you don't know your FH's finances, you should have a talk about that before you start worrying about where you're spending your wedding night.

FH and I are very open about our finances, even though they're currently separate. We laid out our wedding budget at the very beginning. There is absolutely no wondering what we can afford. Money is the number one thing couples fight about, so I suggest jumping on it now before it gets to be a bigger problem. I mean, he could be keeping quiet just to surprise you or something like that, but you need to know where he stands financially.

Have the two of you never talked finances? FH and I are both pretty open and talk about money together - especially when it comes to the wedding. We are paying for everything ourselves so we are always bouncing off ideas off each other in terms of what to purchase and what' not necessary. We decided to take our honeymoon on our on year anniversary. His dad are paying for us to have a mini-moon at an exclusive hotel so that's nice. FH and I just didn't want to spend the unnecessary money on a honeymoon when we don't have the extra right now.

Do you two ever talk about finances? I don't understand why you *think* he can't afford it. Isn't this something you discuss? Also, since you are about to be married and own a house together, shouldn't you be thinking about it as both of your money rather than *your* money and *his* money?