I think Wedding invites are stupid. Can anyone tell me why I should spend money on them?

Because when people get save the dates months before the wedding they think "oh! so and so is getting married, how nice!" then it goes on the fridge, or in a drawer, or in the trash and people go on with their daily loves for the next 5/6 months and completely forget all about the fact that they were supposed to RSVP on your website 6 months later. So here you are, calling all 100+ /- people a month before the wedding, because no one remembered or realized they were supposed to respond to a STD. Just skip the STDs, and send invites 2 months before your wedding. You can have the option to respond via website if you would like, but also include response cards in pre stamped, pre addressed envelopes. Even then...some people won't remember to respond. The point is to make it as "fool proof" as possible. You are welcome to put your engagement photos or whatever it is you like on them.

Invites usually give more details about the wedding such as the exact location and time while a STD simply gives people the wedding date so they know in advance...invites also include rsvps so you know who is coming and not coming....some people arent comfortable with using the computer to rsvp or dont know their exact plans so far out....but i agree i love the STDs more

People are set in their ways... if you sent a STD with "RSVP online" 6-8 months in advance no one would RSVP.

Invitations generally have way more info: address and sometimes directions, a place to write in dietary needs / preferences and / or choose a meal, additional room block info... things that would clutter the shit out of a save the date.

A STD is sent out 6+ months before the wedding. You can't expect your guests to remember your wedding details especially the RSVP date for that long. You won't believe how many people you have to call to get their RSVP and that is even sending out invites 6-8 weeks before the wedding. People just don't like to RSVP sometimes! Chances are your guests will not check your wedding website or they could lose the STD.

Send out the invitations. They don't have to be expensive.

People love getting invitations to weddings! It sets the entire tone of how the day will feel. That being said, how will your guests know the details of the day? Sure it's easy to just tell people to visit your wedding website for details, but whether or not people will actually do it is the issue. How with families know if their kids are invited (or not invited)? What if someone you send a STD to can't actually make it to your wedding last minute? What type of dinner service are you having; do guests need to choose their entree?

It is your wedding and you are totally free to do what you like, but if you don't send an invitation some people might think the wedding isn't even happening anymore... Plus there are very casual wedding invites you can have printed from vistaprint or shutterfly, for example. Depending on how many people you are having it may not cost you that much.

I agree with Ashley. I did get a save the date with rsvp to website once then they closed the website which I found highly annoying.

A five figure event requires a several hundred dollar investment that's needed to print and send formal invitations to guests. Even a child's birthday party, the first, the second, the fifth, the eighth, the tenth, requires a printed invitation littered with handwritten information. A child's birthday party. How on earth does it make sense to skip a formal invitation when the invitation is to an adult, once in a lifetime, formal event?

The STD might thrill the pants off of you, but for most of us, it's a refrigerator pic that leads us to circle a day, months away, on our calendars. We'll have months to either forget your STD or seriously consider it. However, you won't know how we feel about that STD until you send us a formal invitation with a RSVP card. We will have either decided that we want to attend your wedding, or we will have figured out that we aren't interested. Your formal invitation gives us a voice -- either an enthusiastic "YES!!" or a regretfully issued, "NO".

And that's the way it goes.

If you ask for the RSVP on the STD, it will look like you're B-listing.

You don't have to do an elaborate invitation, but you do need to send invitations.

How do you know who will be in a relationship 6-8 months later? So how will you actually know you're inviting?

I have to agree with Amy. Without that invitation and RSVP returns, how will guest know how many people they can bring, or what time the wedding day events start? I'm personally not going to do any STD's, but you could just do really simple invites. I totally get it though. When you don't really like something, you don't don't feel excited about spending money on it. I don't really like flowers, not my favorite thing.

The invite sets the tone, it gives everyone all the invitation and it has an RSVP. Not everyone is going to go to your website and asking people to RSVP months ahead of time is an exercise in futility. Few people can predict what they'll be doing in six months (which is why I personally hate STD's all together).

I love invites. Send them.

Well then why not just email invites? That can include all the information and you can just click on through to the RSVP. And then maybe just send real invitations to the really old folks

Because email isn't formal enough. Even for us really old folks.

I agree with Celia, people really like receiving invites in the mail. I usually lose or forget about STD's and I need to be reminded later. My cousin just sent out her STD's and her wedding is in June. I think at this point, she should have just skipped them and only sent invites.

I get what you're saying, just do something simple. I love my save the date and put my wedding website on them. I've ordered my invites as well. They are gorgeous but simple. Main invite and RSVP card that also references the website. I personally love the wedding websites, gives me a forum to put a bunch of information without having to pay for invite inserts.

I don't think the invites need to be formal at all. I don't understand why people spend so much on fancy invitations with a ton of insert. I would personally prefer to spend my money on something else since most STDS and invitations end up in the garbage anyways.

We decided to skip the STDS and just ordered very basic invitations. We added a small business card with the wedding website and travel agent info. The invitation and business card give all the info needed. No need to go overboard if you don't want to.

If you love the look of STDs, you could do the same design for your invitation. I'm sure you can find a design that will allow you to put a photo and all of the necessary information on it.

Do you mean you like the look of save the dates better? You don't have to do the super elaborate 4 part invite tied together with a bow if that's the case. You can get a photo-card invite and a little RSVP card and call it a day but you should definitely send it closer to your wedding date.

Yea i was thinking STDs are unnecessary. Save the money and just send formal invites right?

I just got my invites from Hobby Lobby when their wedding stuff was half off, they don't have to be crazy fancy or expensive