We have the wedding planned but we are not that deep into it that we think eloping is still and option. Oringially we were going to have a destination wedding on a cruise and have family there. But it was getting complicated and we were thinking of everyone else and felt bad that people had to spend money a lot of money to watch us get married. So instead of thinking of what we really wanted we thought of how we could make it easy for everyone else. So we did..a friend offered us a place and help us in a big way. We sent the Save the dates and thought this was the right decision, having a regular wedding. I put down small deposit but not too much that we wouldn’t be scared losing over. While we are in the planning process.. making everything, looking up things every day to plan this wedding...I honestly still had in the back of my head that this isn’t the wedding we want... We kept saying “ I wish we stuck with our original plan and got married on the cruise”. I kept saying to my fiancé that it’s already being planned we can’t change it now. But why can’t we? The wedding is at the end of August locally backyard feel.. so not many people are losing on money or travel plans. So I am doing my research on if people really cancel their wedding and elope.. we r at the point of saying f**k it and let’s get married the way we want to! Going on a ship, not making anything, not spending the weekend of stress and worry and planning the big day. But walking on the largest cruise ship with my wedding dress fiancé and closest family.. And having our moment of getting married and then enjoy a week of stress free and being married.
The only problem I am having is that I still feel bad about canceling and changing plans, and changing other plans. Also I don’t want to wait much longer and still want to get married by August. I feel bad asking family to spend that much. The save the dates are sent out but now we need to make this decision fast before it’s too late.. how do I send out “change of plans” card to my guests. That we decided to get married on a cruise and having small private ceremony with just family. We also want to extend the invite to all to go on the cruise but maybe not be part of the ceremony.. we want people to feel welcomed to go on the same vacation but I feel if we try to invite everyone to the ceremony it’s going to be more stress planning that. we are thinking of just having a small private ceremony with parents and siblings who decide to go. Also, is this crazy that I still feel bad and think that maybe we should just keep the wedding as it and not change.. but deep inside this is how we always picuted our day and this is what we really want to do and be happy about it. Please help with wording and advice on whether or not we r crazy?
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