i want to have two bachelorette parties

I agree with this. For my friend's bachelorette we planned OCMD as a surprise. In the beginning all the girls were on board, then one dropped out for cost reasons. She never offered to do something else for the bride. I think most people just figure well there's one, and if I can't make it or opt out I just miss it then. If they feel bad they might try to offer to do something else simple or like get mani-pedis on them ya know. I wouldn't have the time or mindspace to plan more than one bachelorette as a bride haha

I don't think it is crazy, but I do feel like it is a bit much. Personally, I'd just let your MOH plan your bachelorette the way she is, and whoever can make it great. My MOH is planning a weekend getaway for mine, and I already know of a couple that can't make it. That is okay, and they are okay with missing it. I know you want to celebrate with everyone, but life is busy, and not everyone will be able to make every event. Plus, planning your own bachelorette...even if it is a second one, is sort of frowned upon because it is supposed to be a party thrown for you. Just enjoy your fun weekend with the ones that can make it, and know that the ones that can't still love you all the same and there are no hard feelings!