I was invited to the Bridal Shower, but not the Wedding?

My mom offered to throw a bridal shower for me. She told me that you can invite anyone you want to the bridal shower, even if they're not invited to the wedding. So she and I invited a ton of people, who weren't necessarily invited to the wedding, which is one week after the bridal shower. So I invited a ton of people, not for a gift, but just to be part of a fun event and eat food, before realizing, apparently that's not socially acceptable or right. Maybe it is right in my mom's country, but here, it is not. So now I'm in a bit of a sticky situation. I am sorry about your situation as well. It could've been due to poor organization too. In my situation for example, my mom said she was throwing me a bridal shower, but then got too busy and left all the planning to me after inviting everyone and buying food, and so I am swamped with another week and a half before the wedding.

This seems backward. It must be an oversight.

I think anyone who has a wedding should also invite their guests to the bridal shower. Inviting friends, etc. just to a bridal shower and not the wedding is just really really rude and unthinkable on my mind.


There’s so many options out there and choices where you can have a nice wedding to accommodate all your friends, relatives, coworkers etc. My husband and I got married over forty years ago and we made every effort to include everyone to have a fabulous wonderful celebration of our marriage! Almost everyone said it was the best wedding they ever went to! I wasn’t expecting this, but it was sure was a nice complement. If you only want a small wedding with family, then only invite to the the bridal shower, the small family and people that are invited to your small wedding . And even if this is the case, that usually doesn’t go over with close associates and friends that are expecting to be invited to the wedding (and bridal shower and stag party, etc. ) and in the long run, one mark my word, your friends, families, and associates that weren’t invited to your small wedding are going to still be HURT. Think of it this way… They love you they appreciate you, and they want to celebrate you. They want to be included in your life I think as a bride and a groom it’s important to remember those things. Life is just not about the two of you, but all the relationships you’re gonna have after your wedding that make life so special, celebrated, and joyful!

I would ask her why you were invited to the wedding. She may just invite you and say it was an oversight or a mistake. Nonetheless, I would send her a nice gift. You don’t have to go overboard with the gift, include a nice card. even if she still doesn’t invite you to the wedding. I know it’s hard not to be hurt, but in this case, you were being the more mature person, and you have more of an understanding with people than this person dies. This friend is going to need to learn to consider other people’s feelings, in order to be a success in life. Hugs!