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Just Said Yes September 2022

Ideas for a Short, Post-private Ceremony "ceremony"?

Catherine, on January 26, 2022 at 1:09 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 3

Hi all -

I grew up in the Orthodox (Christian) church, and my dad is a retired Orthodox priest. All of my three sisters were married by my dad in the church. However, my fiancé and I decided that having a full Orthodox ceremony just isn't ideal for our guest list. It's a longer ceremony with a lot of traditions that are very serious, and rather than risk someone disrespecting those traditions, we decided to have a private Orthodox ceremony at my home church (40 mins from Reception venue) with just our immediate family and bridal party, and then make our way back to the venue for the rest of the day.

Since by that time we will already be technically married, we are trying to think of what we can do as a short "ceremony" for the rest of our guests who will be arriving at the venue expecting to see us get married. I know they will expect to see us exchange rings and say "I do," but I am trying to think of a way to do these things that doesn't feel dishonest.

I was thinking maybe my dad could give a sermon on love and marriage, and that we could say "vows" to each other that are more personalized than the vows we say in the church ceremony. Have you all experienced anything like this before? Are there any Orthodox brides out there that have any suggestions?

Any advice is appreciated!

Thanks,

Catherine


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Latest activity by Beatrice, on February 21, 2022 at 11:27 PM
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    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    Hi Catherine! I love that idea!! You could keep the second service short and personal! Smiley ring

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    Thanks! Yes, we're hoping to keep it short and to the point. The tricky part is just finding some ceremony wording that will be the best of both worlds.

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    Savvy May 2022
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    Hi Catherine!! This is so interesting - I felt like I was reading my own predicament!


    My fiancée recently converted to the orthodox faith so we could be married but felt the same way about our guest list and everyone being included.
    We are doing a similar thing but breaking up the days - getting married in May. Thursday we are doing close family and very close friends in the orthodox ceremony followed by a luncheon. On Saturday we are then doing a more Americanized ceremony of exchange of vows and readings, followed by the full reception. We broke it up this way to be able to honor the tradition of the Greek church separately from the other day and not get too emotionally overwhelmed, but it is definitely more complicated.
    Your idea seems great, but definitely gear yourself up for a HUGE day! Smiley smile you will have to all be ready early to do the ceremony 40 mins away and come back to refresh and then do the other ceremony for the broader list. I know it may seem like people don’t “like” ceremonies, but I think that it is the most memorable and heart felt parts and what really drives the energy for the rest of the day. In other words, your second ceremony will be meaningful to your other guests too!
    Let me know if you want to chat more!
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