Ideas to make garter toss less awkward?

I'm not doing it for this reason. I don't need my husband up my dress in front of family members. It sounds horrifying IMO.

I am not doing the garter toss and honestly would not consider it if FH was uncomfortable with it (which he is).

If he's uncomfortable with it, don't force him to do it. You can still have a bouquet toss if you want.

Wear it lower down on your leg

Personally, I'd skip it. For my own wedding, I have no preference either way, but FH is uncomfortable with it; therefore, we're not doing it because he doesn't want to.

You can do the bouquet toss still without the garter toss.

Skip it.

@ellaenchanted @TheHamWhites I do like the idea of wearing it lower on your leg. And to everyone else, if I can't find any other fun ideas from this I probably will end up just skipping it. Just would like to do it if I could find a way for my FH to enjoy it!

Sounds like you're forcing him into something he's really uncomfortable with just because you want it. Skip it. He's not uncomfortable and you still get the bouquet toss

I get liking the tradition, but keep in mind that it's his wedding too. There's a Jewish wedding tradition I really wanted to do, but H wasn't comfortable with it. He absolutely would have done it because he knew I wanted it, but I ultimately decided I couldn't do that to him. His comfort and enjoyment was more important than a small tradition. I married HIM, not the tradition.

Don't do it. We're skipping it.

I would leave it out if he is uncomfortable- like others have said, you can still do the bouquet toss as a compromise.

The garter toss will always be pretty sexual...the tradition originates from the groom proving the marriage was consummated!

So what my DJ did at our wedding was whoever caught the bouquet took the garter too and placed it around the guy who caught the garter's ankle. That way it was funny and no one was uncomfortable!

Don't do it. Gross.

Are you making the person who catches the garter put it in the person that catches the bouquet? This part makes me so uncomfortable and in my opinion is just awful. There is no real way to divorce sexuality from the ritual, because that's kind of the whole point. You could have him remove it from below the knee in a really vanilla way, but then why even bother?

@Brandi G really like the idea of taking it off before and just tossing it. Might look into something like that. And yeah haha I agree it gets a little crazy sometimes and I don't want it like that either. Thank you!

You can always have a 2nd garter that you don't wear that he can keep stashed in his pocket for this maybe? There have also been previous suggestions that you 2 could remove it in a private area (limo) and then he can still toss it.

If he is uncomfortable though and still doesn't like alternatives, I'd skip it. It's his wedding day, too.

Don't do it.

@jona d no we don't want to have the person who catches the bouquet have it put on them. We both agreed that super creepy too lol. But yeah exactly that's why now I'm kinda like eh should we even do it

Also, you'd be saving friends/family who don't want to be called out as single if you skip it. You'd also save 2 people from being equally embarassed and uncomfortable as your FH would be if you skip it, too.

Definitely Google and explore alternatives though if you really want to incorporate it. If you do change how he removes it and you both do it, please extend the same courtesy to your guests and find them a different option too, haha.

So happy you posted this because I really don't want to have the garter toss. I feel like it would be so embarrassing but my mom keeps saying "you have to have it" so I'd love for it not to be awkward