Ideas to make garter toss less awkward?

DH really wanted to do the garter toss, full fledged, removing it with his teeth. I was mortified at the thought of him doing that in front of my parents. My mom suggested that I just put the toss garter on right before the garter toss and just set it at my shin or ankle so he wouldn't have to go all the way up my dress. We ended up skipping the garter toss and we're both happy that we skipped it. We still did the bouquet toss though. I think skipping the garter toss but still doing the bouquet toss is a nice compromise because you won't be forcing him into something he's clearly uncomfortable with.

Garter tosses are uncomfortable for most people.

If he's uncomfortable and shy just don't do one.

@Alforev thats exactly what happened with me haha I like the traditions but it's more my family that is like you have to have it!! So far it's looking like I might take it off before and just do the "toss" part (if he's okay with it)

If he's not into it, you should take that into consideration. Would he be more comfortable if he didn't have to remove it in front of everyone? You could just hand it to him or put it around your ankle or something. Or you could just do a bouquet toss. Or skip the entire thing.

We skipped the garter and bouquet tosses. H was never going to go up my dress to retrieve it anyway, because we were both uncomfortable with the idea, but we still planned to just toss them.

After getting our RSVPs, we realized we didn't have enough single people so we skipped it altogether. Several of our guests told us they were glad we didn't do it, and that they didn't miss it. Seems more people than we thought also hated that tradition.

It makes more people uncomfortable than you think. SKIP IT.

Yeah, don't do it lol. I'm not doing it because it seems like a really weird tradition. My SO doesn't care about stuff like that and I don't want some guy friend to have a garter that was up on my thigh lol. Just seems weird. I will do a bouquet toss. I don't have many single ladies on my guest list but my best friend is single and says I have to do one so she can catch it. Lol!!

I left the throw garter in a pretty silver box for my husband. We didn't do a big show with it all - he's very respectful of me and very protective. He didn't want to display removing such an intimate thing (and I didn't want to either). Also - under 5 layers of gown on in July, my legs got really sweaty. Having the throw garter on, it would have been soaked. Talk about gross to throw.

Another option would be to go to a private room where he can remove it before the toss. We discussed doing that too

@WinterSweet lol on the legs being sweaty thing I'm gonna be in the same boat so maybe you're right haha thank you!!

I have been to a few weddings where the couple was very reserved. Instead of having the groom go under their wedding dress and take it off with their teeth and do a whole show he just knelt down and slipped it off with his hands. Nothing over the top or sexual about it. Of course the crowd hollered and was all like OoOoOOOo! But it was pretty harmless and tame.

Like PP said its ok to skip it as well and just do a bouquet toss if you want!

ETA: Saw some other comments on it making guests uncomfortable and wanted to share my experience. We had maybe 5 truly single guests at our wedding and I didn't want to do either of the tosses because of this. For whatever reason, the tosses where the hill my H decided to die on. So what my compromise was that we had the DJ ask for ALL female guests to gather round and whoever caught the bouquet won a gift card. That way no one is feeling forced to do it and was being called out for being single and it had a fun reward. We did it for the garter toss as well and it went over really well.

We just kept it simple. The garter was right above my knee and H just took it off and tossed it. A good song can make it pretty fun. I don't know who these guys are who go up the dress. I have never seen that and I've been to a lot of weddings who all did the garter toss. Maybe that's a regional thing. It's so raunchy.

I completely forgot to even buy the garter until the day before. FH went and got it because he was going to the mall. Of course it was way too big so I just put it on right before we tossed it. The extra garter will probably get thrown away. I don't know what else to do with it honestly and we have no emotional attachment to it.

Out of 2 dozen weddings, I've never seen a garter. I've been in 4 weddings and none of the brides even wore one. Heck, my parents never tossed anything and they've been married 40 years.

Just don't do it!

We did one because H wanted to but if he was uncomfortable with it we would've skipped it. I just put it at my knee and lifted up my dress a little and he took it off and threw it. It lasted like 10 seconds. I cringe when people do it with their teeth lol. If he's uncomfortable with it though you can just skip it!

My FH doesn't mind the garter toss and I do want to have it because it's traditional too and I just want to have the whole experience at my wedding. Buttt he is kinda ugh about having to throw something I was wearing to another guy. Hahahaha. He is definitely the jealous type lol

Yeah, don't do it.

Skip it and just do the bouquet toss. It sounds frankly horrifying to me

My FH wants to do it, I don't. We compromised and we're putting a separate garter on a football for him to throw to his friends.

I went to a wedding that instead of the traditional searching for the garter under the dress, the dj had all the single guys play musical chairs for a chance to win it

Let him use his hand and keep his head above your dress. That way it’s less awkward and you still get the tradition

If your FH has expressed to you that it makes him uncomfortable respect his feelings and don’t force it on him. Even if you think he is now saying he is ok with some part of it, he probably isn’t and is just trying to make you happy. You wouldn’t want him to push you into doing something you aren’t comfortable with. Skip it and just do your bouquet toss.