If i was a bridesmaid or guest at their wedding, do they require an invite to mine?

How long ago were their weddings?

You are not required to invite anyone to your wedding. I officiated weddings for several friends that were not invited to ours, and was part of my other friend's wedding while she also did not get an invite. If I had invited everyone that I had been there with on their special day, we would have doubled our guest list instantly. They were all told that we just couldn't invite everyone and everyone really seemed to understand. Most sensible people get it.

You're not obligated to have anyone at your wedding as a guest or in your bridal party.

It’s your day so you invite who you want.

View Quoted Comment One was in 2013 and the last time I saw her was in November 2018.


The other was in 2015 and I haven't seen her since May 2018.
Granted, I now live overseas (although the wedding will be in the states). But I haven't really spoken to either of them since I last saw them aside from a word of congratulations on a pregnancy.

I would invite who you want. When my FH and I made our guest list we set a couple rules for how we decided on who to invite. One of them was if we haven't talked to or spent time with them within the last year, we were not inviting them. I would say make your guest list with who you 100% want at your wedding, and if you have extra spots and want to invite them, then invite them. Since you want a smaller wedding, it may just be easier to tell them (if they ask) that you are having a small wedding and cannot accommodate additional people.

I can see your sense in this. I feel like I'd be the type to reciprocate aha. But you really don't have to. Especially because it seems your friendships with them aren't that close anymore

View Quoted Comment I don’t think you have to invite them unless you want to honestly. If you said something like their weddings were last year then I’d say yeah they’d probably be really hurt if they chose you as a bridesmaid last year and you didn’t invite them this year. But 5-7 years ago seems like a long enough time that I don’t think you really have that same obligation anymore 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm getting the sense that you truly don't want them there (no shame in that). That should be enough of a determining factor!

You said you love these to friends...wouldn't you want them there at your wedding? Announcing your engagement could be a opportunity to reconnect with them. Just thinking that you saw them both not too long ago and they might be hurt to learn they weren't invited.

You're not obligated to invite anyone. If you feel close to them though, I'd give an invite!