If you are no longer the moh but have already paid for things, should you give the new moh a bill?

No, you shouldn’t. The bachelorette party is the responsibility of whoever offers to host it. You can still host it. Or you can opt out of hosting it and return/cancel everything you’ve paid for.

I'm sorry, no. I think this is an awful situation. I would maybe ask the bride what you should do - but she's likely expecting you to give anything to the new MOH. I think this is one of those awful things that has no good fix. I'm so very sorry!

Ouch! That must have hurt and I am sorry. I agree with previous posters that you shouldn't hand a "bill" to the new MOH. She might have made completely different budget and hosting decisions if she had been the planner from the start, and it's not her fault this bride is treating you so poorly.

It would be completely understandable if you decided to remove yourself from the wedding party (and the "friendship"!) and in doing so, return all of the supplies you have bought, and cancel any reservations you made for the bachelorette party. Definitely don't spend any more of your money on this wedding.

I agree with PPs. Don't send the new moh a bill. Either continue to host (and I'm petty enough to make it clear that I'm hosting not the new moh) OR return/cancel everything and she can start from scratch.

That is messed up of the bride. Don't stick the new MoH with the bill. That is crass and not automatically her responsibility. I'd return as much as possible and try to get my money back.

Wow that's so rude and hurtful. Honestly I wouldn't do anything, just return the items you can. I don't think I'd be up to still hosting the bachelorette at all.

Just as a heads up to the group, the bachelorette is not the responsibility of the MOH. Anyone can host the party as a gift to the person getting married.

Your friend sucks.

Yeah this is a hard situation! Just back off gently. If she has no problem dropping you as her MOH, she shouldn’t be offended if you backed out of hosting her bachelorette party imo (if you no longer wanted to).

I'd return everything possible and get any deposits back if you can. If you can't - seriously - I'd tell the bride/former friend that she owed me whatever it is.

No I definitely wouldn't. Especially since you're still in the wedding party

That's a slap in the face. I would personally back out of the wedding party and return/cancel anything I had already booked and paid for. If she has no problem dropping you as MOH, then she should have no problem with you backing out of hosting the bachelorette.

Don't take it out on the new MOH. It isn't her fault your bride-friend is a jacka--.

Your choices are:

-Continue to host the party graciously. Anyone can host the bachelorette party, it is not explicitly an MOH duty.
-Let the bride know you are canceling the party you are hosting, and her new MOH should plan accordingly. Then, return and recoup what you can.

Be advised the bride will probably get mad when you tell her you are canceling the party you planned, but she should have anticipated some fallout when she demoted you. If you go that route, stand your ground. But again: your beef should be with bride-friend, not the new MOH.

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Yeah this is kind of a friendship dealbreaker for me, so I'd say, "okay Im assuming the MOH is taking over the planning", and get as much money back as possible.

I would also try to recoup money from what you purchased as people have said. I wouldn’t hand the née MOH a bill. I’d also step back and let the new MOH plan the bachelorette party. Then I’d reassess this friendship and maybe cool it off. That’s usually a friendship ending move.