If you could do it again... One year engagement or 2?

It's hard enough for me to wait 1 year. I wouldn't want to wait 2 years. Our wedding is just under a year out. Even though I'm ready to get married now, I must admit it's kind of nice not to have to worry about merging households right now and what to do with my furniture. Plus, moving to his house will increase my work commute. I'm NOT looking forward to that!!

Our engagement will have been 21 months. I am so glad too. We didn't even talk about setting a date until we were engaged for 8 months. We were saving and looking at a real budget at that point. I liked feeling like I had time to research and look around for vendors and venues. We also got some GREAT deals because we booked over a year in advance for certain things (Venue, DJ, Church).

That being said - I have 2 cousins who have gotten engaged and married with 3- 6 months of their proposals and are really happy with their decisions (they observe more religious traditions than FH and I do).

We had a two year engagement. It did feel a little long, but there's no way we could have gotten it done in a year, so I wouldn't have done anything differently.

I would also consider how much else you have going on-- I was still working on my masters part time in addition to full time work when we got engaged, so that was basically 6 months of non-planning time for us.

Ours ended up being 3 1/2. It is what it is.

We chose a 2 year engagement mainly for budget purposes. I'm so glad we did because I feel totally comfortable with the money we are spending and I wouldn't have 1 year ago. Also, I didn't plan for the first like 10 months. I just enjoyed using the word fiancé and browsing Pinterest.

Hi Date twin!!!! We originally started out with a one and half year engagement as we wanted to save up a bit and pay for our wedding over the course of this year leading up to the wedding that way we wouldn't feel like we were financially strained. Plus I've had all the time in the world to plan so I'm pretty much done with it all. Now it's just paying off vendors time. I was sad about the additional year as tomorrow was our original date but I'm so happy that we wait.

Ours was a little over 7 months. I'm not good at waiting for things lol

Some very good points! The traditional part is definitely true- as we are waiting to move in together (among other things we're waiting for while we're engaged) and I guess that is mostly my impatience, however we are both pretty laid back and "going with the flow" doesn't really work well for wedding planning so I may want those extra months as a wiggle room for procrastination

We just just under a year for our engagement (Got engaged April 19th 2013, Married April 4th, 2014) and I wouldn't have wanted to change a thing. We had a destination wedding though, so it was cheaper and a lot less stressful than planning a wedding here. If I was getting married here, it would have probably been 2 years due to finances and booking a venue.

For us, I felt like a year is MORE than enough. We will have an exact 1 year 1 month engagement. I wish we would've had a shorter one. It has been dragging on FOREVER, I just want to be married already LOL Plus I am I big planner/organizer. So I pretty much already have our wedding planned out. The date just needs to get here.

Our engagement is just over two years and I wouldn't change a thing. We are in five wedding parties right now and it's putting quite the strain on our wallets. Two years is giving us enough time to save for the wedding we want.

Our engagement will have been a year and a half by the time we're married, and even though at times it's felt long, I think I'd do the same thing if I had to go back and do it again. It allowed us enough time to really enjoy being engaged before needing to jump right into planning and it gave us time to comfortably pay for all of the wedding/honeymoon things we have.

Mine is 1.5yrs. It was nice because you can space things out and really plan at a nice pace. I def would NOT want it any longer than that. The only problem with even how long mine was is that as some point you have breaks in planning and then you get all these ideas of what else you want to do which either are too expensive or are not feasible. A shorter engagement def would have been a little stressful with getting all the vendors and things you want but at the same time you kind of save stress because no one has time to question any of your decisions and you have to be decisive on what you want. I think it depends on what else is going on in your life.

Our engagement is 8 months long. I think that's plenty of time to do everything. I originally wanted it to be farther back, but FH insisted we do it earlier. I'm SO glad he did because I'm on pins and needles now, can't imagine how I'd be if I had to wait longer!

Ours is a 19 month engagement, so a little over a year and a half. While there were times that it seemed too long, I'm glad we had the time. We were able to get most of the planning done in advance and just enjoy being engaged.

Our engagement will be 22 months (so almost two years) because I didn't think I could so it 10. I soooo could have done it in 10 months. But if I would have picked the corresponding Friday in 2013 to my real date (getting married on October 3, last year the same Friday would have been October 4), that was the day my grandmother passed, so I think God knew what he was doing when he convinced me to wait.

Mine is 13 months long and that already feels too long! I wish I could have switched it to like 8 or 9 months. All the bridal magazines and checklists recommend a full year, but at this point, I think that's all baloney that's meant to get us to spend more money.

Ours will be 9 months and I'm so glad! I don't want to be in wedding mode that long; too many decisions and too much time to change my mind. In the end, it's about committing and getting married. I'm excited for that part to come asap; all the planning is just an added obstacle.

I'd do a two year instead of my 14 month engagement all the way. I'd feel better about spending money. BUT I really hate thinking about wedding stuff all the gdm time.

I think you do have to take into consideration where you are in life too. FH and I were already living together when we got engaged. If we were waiting for marriage I may have made our engagement period shorter!