If you have a toxic family

Don't invite anyone who will cause stress for you on the day of. All your guests should be supportive and able to put their drama aside for a day, for the sake of your happiness. If they can't do that, you should feel no pressure to invite them.

I completely understand about having toxic relatives. The ones who create stress and drama will not be invited. The relatives who are lovely and drama free will be invited. Cut all ties and go permanent no contact with the toxic folks and stay in touch with the ones who are not cruel or toxic. Never ever do anything out of obligation to please others instead of yourself because your mental health and well-being are much more important. Especially on the wedding day. Set and maintain boundaries with consequences because people will walk over you if you don’t.

Absolutely not. Invite only those who support & respect you, and will help bring love to your wedding day. And a wedding is never a place to try and mend relationships—if they and wedge into your plans just say no thank you. But if you don’t tell them, or post on social media, they won’t find out about the wedding, right?

Definitely don’t invite anyone that will cause you any stress. Hubby and I discussed it and we took a lot of time before making our final decision. For our vow renewal his parents and sister will not be invited. I just can’t imagine having to look at them and I definitely can’t imagine paying for them. It’s supposed to be a day filled with love, happiness, and support. You want to look back and think about how happy each person was for you. How much each person wanted to celebrate with you.