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Michelle
Savvy September 2019

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Michelle, on May 31, 2019 at 10:43 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 12
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I'm finally at a point where I can send out invitations, and I've been collecting addresses from the friends and family we're inviting. Our guest list is small, so we're being selective about who we're inviting. I sent one of my cousins a message on facebook saying "Hey cousin! It's been a while! I'm getting married September 14 and would love to send you guys an invitation, please send your address so I can get that sent to you!" aaaaand he read it but didn't respond. That was about a week ago, I just sent a follow-up message but I don't feel like I'm going to get a response. If that's the case I guess that just opens up a spot for someone else.

Has anyone else run into something like this? I'm a little bummed but I'd rather invite people who WANT to be there rather than invite a bunch of people that will only be showing up because they feel like they have to.


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Latest activity by Michelle, on June 2, 2019 at 12:20 AM
  • Kelsey
    Savvy August 2019
    Kelsey ·
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    I only had one person who did that to me. I am sure I could have gotten their address from someone else, but I realized if he didn’t even want to respond, he probably didn’t want to come to the wedding. So I crossed them off the list! That might be more difficult with family... in your circumstance I probably would have asked my parents first, but I wouldn’t be afraid to just not invite the cousin.
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  • Michelle
    Savvy September 2019
    Michelle ·
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    My family isn’t really close so I don’t think anyone aside from my other cousin has his address 😂 I considered asking her but it would have felt awkward plus if I’m not getting a response he probably doesn’t want to or can’t come to the wedding. Oh well, plenty of people want to be there so I’m not going to sweat it. I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t alone lol
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  • Nykole
    Expert October 2019
    Nykole ·
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    For sure, don't sweat it. If he can't even be courteous enough to respond to a simple message, then screw it. Like you said, opens a spot up for someone else that actually wants to be there! Smiley laugh

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    That happened with quite a few of our guests. I learned that some people are terrible at responding to messages!
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  • Michelle
    Savvy September 2019
    Michelle ·
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    I mean I suck at responding to messages but not this bad 🤣
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    You asked and he didn't answer - nothing else you can do. His loss Smiley smile

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  • CDickman
    VIP September 2019
    CDickman ·
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    I think sending a fellow up is good. So many times I see a message and mean to respond to it later then forget.
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  • C
    Super July 2019
    Crystal ·
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    I keep being left in read from my aunt and brothers in Calif. I understand and its annoying!
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  • JuneBride2018
    Devoted June 2018
    JuneBride2018 ·
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    Yes I had a close friend, or so I thought, read my message and didn’t respond. We hadn’t talked in a while, I’m not the friend that talks everyday because I know we’re grown and we’re busy but I am the friend you can call whenever you need to talk or hang or just need a shoulder to lean on. She’s not, she needs you to be available 24/7 and check in 24/7......I never found out why she didn’t respond or didn’t show but knowing her that’s the reason because we hadn’t talked in a while. Mind you we were friends for 11 years. It kind of hurt but I get over stuff rather quickly when I know I did nothing wrong.
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  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    A friend of mine was going to be a bridesmaid in my wedding, but every time I asked for her address she wouldn't respond. She finally told me the day before we were supposed to go shopping for bridesmaid dresses that she couldn't afford the dress or to attend my wedding (even though it was only 30 minutes from the town she lives in) which would have been nice to know when I asked her to be in the wedding.
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  • Vicky
    VIP January 2020
    Vicky ·
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    I would reach out to him through some other way. Believe it or not, sometimes Facebook says you have seen a message when you actually haven't. Some people have messaging turned off, or they don't get notifications, or it goes into a side folder if you're not actually FB friends. Or he may just be having a very busy week and doesn't have the time or mental space for a conversation with a cousin. Don't assume bad intentions and don't give up after the most minimal amount of effort.

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  • Michelle
    Savvy September 2019
    Michelle ·
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    I’m going to be asking my other cousin for his number and hopefully be able to get ahold of him.

    We actually got got a lot of heat after we announced our engagement because we got engaged quickly and set our date less than a year from our engagement. My family is very judge mental and since this cousin and I aren’t super close I really have no idea where he stands. That’s the main reason I’m not sure if he wants to attend or not.
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