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I'm from a broken home and planning my wedding is bringing up a lot of hurt

Happilyengaged18, on January 21, 2018 at 2:28 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3

I grew up in an abusive home and I've distanced myself from most people in my family since I turned 18. I still have some contact with my mom, but only when I have to such as calling her on mother's day and holidays. My biological father walked out when i was 6 and I haven't seen him since, and my step father was very abusive to me and my mom. And my mom was too stressed out and hurt over her marriage to be a mother to me while I was growing up. The rest of my family is in another part of the world.

Now that I am engaged and starting to plan my wedding, I'm realizing that I won't have a father-daughter dance, i won't have anyone to walk me down the aisle, and there won't be anyone from my family to toast me. The only people from my family who will be there are my mom and my stepdad because my mom insists if he's not invited it would be humiliating for her.

The guests of my wedding will be my fiance's family and friends, and about 5-10 of my friends.

Has anyone on this forum ever dealt with this situation? I'm so anxious that the guests will realize that I came from a broken home. I'm scared that this wedding will essentially put the fact that I didn't come from a stable home on display. Any advice?

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Latest activity by Forestwed, on January 21, 2018 at 7:21 PM
  • Katelyn
    Devoted January 2019
    Katelyn ·
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    I didn't come from a broken home, but I understand how it feels to not be close with family. You could have a destination wedding, that way when few people from your family don't show it looks normal, because of travel expenses. You could even have it in the part of the world where the rest of your family is. That's what I'm doing at least (FH is from Puerto Rico and most of his family is there.)
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    Beginner July 2018
    Carly ·
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    Sorry to hear. I cut myself off from a lot of people in my life and planning a wedding really brings that up more than I thought. There are tons of non- traditional weddings out there. You don’t need to have a father/daughter dance, garter throw, etc.
    How are you with your FIL? If you’re close maybe you could ask him. Or your best guy friend?
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  • Forestwed
    Master May 2018
    Forestwed ·
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    I completely understand how you feel. It took me a long time to come to terms with my family situation. I’m only inviting my two best friends to my wedding. None of my family will be there. There are moments when I feel sad but I remind myself of how far I’ve come and what I put behind me. The most important people in my life will be there and it sucks that it’s not family but at least I have them. I don’t care what anyone else thinks about my family situation. They are their own people and not a reflection of the person I am.
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