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I'm i the only one worried about back fat?

Jennifer, on July 9, 2018 at 9:54 PM Posted in Community Conversations 1 21

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I am a bigger girl, I really try to hide my body (which my fiance hates, cause he loves my curves). My wedding dress is the first thing I have ever felt truly beautiful in, but then I see the pictures my friends have taken with me in it at the bridal shop and all I see is back and armpit fat and I freak. I keep telling myself I am going to do something about it but then I am a stress eater and I am so tired after work I have no motivation to do anything. I'm I the only one going through this? My friends and fiance keep trying to reassure me that I will be fine and look beautiful... Blah blah blah, but I am so scared of looking so horribly fat and gross. Please tell me I am not the only one this terrified.

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Just Said Yes April 2018
Donna · on July 9, 2018 at 10:03 PM
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Be you dont worried about your body. The day is about your connection to your soon to be spouse. Your family and friends love YOU. Enjoy your day!
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JuneBride2018 · on July 9, 2018 at 10:04 PM
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When I went looking for dresses I too didn’t like my back fat. I’ve always wanted a dress with a beautiful back and I wasn’t going to let back fat stop that. I purchased my dress and made a vow to myself to lose that. I lost 25 pounds by eating better and snacking on fruit and only drinking water. Within those 4 months of doing so i said goodbye to back fat. If I could do it, the worse stress eater ever, then you too can. Make it your goal and throw out the junk food and make better food choices. YOU GOT THIS!!!!!!
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Dedicated August 2018
Sandi · on July 9, 2018 at 10:06 PM
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I am not happy about the sudden development of back fat when my corset is tightened 😕. But my MOH was like, you’re wearing a veil right? No one is paying attention to your back but you. Relax and enjoy...
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Leah · on July 9, 2018 at 10:14 PM
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Don’t feel alone! I’m in a boat similar and I always feel as if FH and friends just tell me what I want to hear but I see the complete opposite. I haven’t even gone dress shopping yet but I’m afraid of nothing fitting or being self conscious about the way I look in any of them. I have my first appointment soon so I guess I’ll have to suck it up lol.

You’ll be a beautiful bride and I’m sure your dress looks stunning on you. Stay confident, embrace the love and beauty you feel in your dress, and just know your body is unique and beautifully yours. You and your day will be flawless no matter what 💕
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Devoted June 2018
JuneBride2018 · on July 9, 2018 at 10:17 PM
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Also please don’t ever try to hide your body, no one notices. Sometimes we tend to beat ourselves up and are our own enemy. Love yourself and who you are, look in the mirror and tell yourself that you ARE beautiful. No one is going to be talking about that, we ladies are too hard on ourselves. Be the beautiful bride that you are going to be. Stand tall and embrace your curves hunny.!!!!!
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Dedicated August 2018
Melissa · on July 9, 2018 at 10:33 PM
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You are not alone! I was really worried about this, too. I had my first alterations appointment and we are letting the top out just a little.

Dont worry about it - just go rock that dress
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2ndtime1stwedding · on July 9, 2018 at 11:00 PM
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I only am a size 6-8 and I got back fat. A nice fold right below my bra line right above my natural waist.
Frankly when I was at my skinniest of 125lbs and almost down to a size 2(just 3 years ago) I still had back fat right there.
my dress is open back. I worried for awhile. Was self conscious. But like you I suck at being motivated to do anything about it. So then I said F it. I’ll have back fat.
Then I lived happily ever after. I get married on Friday. Back fat and all.

I also got mom tummy cuz I have 2 kids. Even when I was skinny I still had mom tummy with loose skin.
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Savvy June 2019
Sugar · on July 9, 2018 at 11:19 PM
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Often back fat can be eliminated by lowering the neckline at the back.
https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fix-armpit-fat-and-back-fat-with-dress-alterations-not-exercise/
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Maggie · on July 9, 2018 at 11:40 PM
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I’m a plus size bride also, and I refuse to accept that losing weight for my wedding day is the only way I’ll look beautiful. Weight does not equal beauty in either direction. No one is going to think anything other than look at this beautiful couple. i have back fat too and I have a little armpit fat but I’m wearing a fit and flare, strapless, sweetheart neckline, lace gown.
Wear that dress with your hair up and smile! You are beautiful and your day will be perfect even with some back rolls.
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Super August 2018
Shayna · on July 10, 2018 at 12:01 AM
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We all have body insecurities, so don’t think you are alone! Look for styles that accentuate parts of your body that make you feel confident. Keep in mind that your confidence in your dress is all that matters. Good luck in your dress hunt!
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Dedicated August 2018
Ashley · on July 10, 2018 at 1:44 AM
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Girl I feel I! Plus size bride here marrying a twiggy man lol I feel like i'm going to look huge especially next to him in a wedding dress uggghhhh. Just keep trying to think positive! I always look at plus size brides and think to myself I don't see what they're talking about. We are our worst critics!
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Devoted September 2018
kNrYwC · on July 10, 2018 at 4:54 AM
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I have hated every cell phone photo of myself in my wedding dress as well. My suggestion is to make anyone who took a photo (yourself included) delete them. Do not look at them. Remember how your dress makes you feel, and if you're anything like me, you'll feel more beautiful every time you have the dress on.
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VIP October 2018
Kaye · on July 10, 2018 at 9:22 AM
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1) Your fiance loves you no matter what. 2) If it really bothers you, can you wear a bolero with your dress?
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Dedicated May 2019
Christine · on July 10, 2018 at 11:02 AM
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I have underarm fat.Luckily my dress hides it some what.Not going to let it stress me out
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Jennifer · on July 10, 2018 at 6:43 PM
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Thank you Donna
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Jennifer · on July 10, 2018 at 6:45 PM
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I already have my dress, as I said I feel absolutely beautiful in it, it's when I see myself in the photos my friends took I have issues.
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Beginner October 2018
Jennifer · on July 10, 2018 at 6:46 PM
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I love my dress the way it is really, I don't want to take away from it. I just need to get over my insecurities about my back.
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Jennifer · on July 10, 2018 at 6:47 PM
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We really are our worst critic, it's horrible!!
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Jennifer · on July 10, 2018 at 6:51 PM
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You are awesome!! Have a wonderful wedding! I am positive you will look stunning!
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