I’m need Bridal Party help!!

Okay, so this is a VERY long story, but I’ll make it as short as I can for you all! So I have two sister, both younger than me (full & half). Me and my half sister are extremely close and she is so excited for me and my fiancé and my wedding, even the babies that are hopefully 🤞, soon to come after the wedding! Her and I have always been close, she is 10 years younger than me and she is my baby. My other sister is a completely different story, we used to be close, but she hit her teenage years and our relationship took a huge turn for the worse. While we are civil with each other maybe 25-35% of the time, and I do love her, she is my sister - duh, we are not close. She has huge entitlement issues, very self-centered, and just plain rude, especially if you aren’t doing exactly what she wants. The problem I am having is, deciding whether or not to have to have her as a bridesmaid.. Of course my dream would be that both my sisters and I have this amazing relationship and they are happy and excited for me and both standing up there with me on my wedding day, but I know that’s not reality. I am 100% positive that I am going to have my youngest sister up there with me, but I go back and forth ALL THE TIME, about whether or not to have the other one in the bridal party as well. I have this HUGE fear that she is going to completely ruin my day by doing either one, or many things, whether it be throw one of her notorious screaming fits, be a total raging B because the day is not about her at all, be late, not show up at all, the list goes on and on. I know for fact that she will be nasty to me and hurt my feelings multiple times before my wedding in August 2022, and I know that, those reasons right there should make this decision a no-brainer for me and she should not be invited to be part of the wedding party. The problem I am having is that I am SUCH a people pleaser and I hate to upset people and create conflict, when I am not angry with her, I feel so bad for thinking about not having her has part of the bridal party - she is my sister, and I do love her, and I know her feelings would be so hurt if I don’t include her, but in the same breath, the fears I listed above about her in regard to my wedding day also weigh so heavy on me. I am also planning on paying for everything for my bridal party, and in no way, shape or form, does she deserve those special treatments after the way she has treated, not only me, but our mom, and other family members just in the last 3 months (this issue has been going on significantly longer than that). I just don’t know what to do, I know she doesn’t deserve the honor, and I know that if I invite her as part of the wedding party, I will be stressed and anxious and constantly walking on eggshells the day of to ensure she doesn’t blow up and cause a giant scene the day of that I know will leave me in tears, but how do I tell her that? More importantly, how do I get over this fear of hurting her, I am her older sister, I feel like I have this responsibility to have her in my bridal party, but if I am being honest I’m so scared to have her there. I don’t enjoy spending time with her 90% of the time because of how she acts, and treats me and my mom (I’m very protective of my mom), but I am also so fearful of hurting her feelings and damaging our broken relationship even more…


I’m not sure what I am looking for here, maybe a listening ear, advice from others that make have had the same experiences, I’m not sure. Maybe I am just here to vent, regardless though, I appreciate you all taking time out of your day to read through my rant. I am so thankful for this group, I have learned so much, and am always appreciative to have someone to run that consists of people that are going through some of the same or similar wedding stressor’s as myself! 💕💕