I’m not excited for my wedding at all.

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. Unfortunately, men just aren't as involved in wedding planning as women. If you need help with something specific, kindly remember him it is his wedding too and you could really use help with X. As for your wedding dress, by big I'm assuming you mean a ballgown. I for one LOVE ballgowns and I'm sure you look amazing so it doesn't matter what your mother-in-law thinks as long as you love it. As for hair and makeup, you have every right to pamper yourself that day. My husband also had more guests on his side so we told our guests at the ceremony to pick a seat not a side that way it didn't look uneven and honestly no one is going to be there counting guests on each side. Also, your sister is completely wrong. Pale pink and navy are a gorgeous combination so don't even listen to her negativity. Since she clearly has nothing nice to say, I wouldn't even talk to her about your wedding. Talk with people who actually support you.

Oh no! I'm so sorry. I feel the same way :-(

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, and unfortunately such is wedding life. When I first started planning my wedding my fiancee wasn't all too interested, and a lot of my friends, even now, only three months away from my wedding don't give a crap what happens. Heck, even my own parents aren't coming to my wedding! You know what I learned throughout the entire wedding planning process!? They don't matter, everybody else and their opinions don't matter. Only care about your own, your fiance's and nothing else. So what if your sister doesn't like your wedding colors? Her opinions don't matter because those colors look great together, and you know it, I know it, and Pintrest knows it!

I had a friend that would constantly wine to me about every little thing, from the dress, to the shoes, to the venue, to the alcohol! Eventually, I just told her to get over it because I'm doing my own thing.

Try not to let people discourage you from planning the wedding of your dreams. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, except you and your fiancee. You are going to be fine, and you will get through this, and I promise you that your wedding will be wonderful.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for these kind words. They are really what I needed to hear this morning. I guess I’m not the only one in this situation, thank you for the advice. ❤️

View Quoted Comment Thank you 😊. Yes it’s a ball gown dress. I’m going to follow your advice and not talk to my sister about anything unless she needs to know. She’s a bridesmaid so I have to kind of talk to her. Thank you for all your kind words.

View Quoted Comment You're welcome 😊 Share as little info with her as possible. All she really needs to know is about getting a dress and when and where she needs to be for the wedding.

I think you should consider a therapist because they help you with intuition and knowing yourself. There are reasons why you feel the way you are and why you are so sensitive about the flowers opinion for example. If you love them, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. His guests outweighing yours doesn't mean anything, where did you get that from? Again there must be some internal reasons why you let these things bother you. And don't worry I've heard men in general don't like planning their wedding

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This post is everything! Thank you for sharing!

I totally know where you are coming from! I've been in a similar situation lately and it really has burst my bridal bubble. After (or even before maybe) I had to postpone my wedding it just seems like there were a ton of opinions and no support or excitement from friends or family. I know it is really frustrating and I try to not share as much about the wedding with others now because if they are not willing to help or think they are helping with their opinions, then why bother. I really hope you can find something between now and then in the wedding planning process that truly makes you excited, maybe there is something that you can work on now that will make you feel really accomplished. This is about YOUR (and your fiancé's) day and whatever ideas you had, there is a reason for them--because they were uniquely YOU. It's going to be special because it's about the two of you. It's not a waste, you can do this, remember why you started!

First of all breathe, you are going to be absolutely beautiful and your wedding will be magical, no matter what your family or your friends say. I haven't had a lot of support from friends and family either and I know it feels so lonely. This is supposed to be the happiest day of your life and it feels like no one cares, and that SUCKS. No matter what happens though, the ONLY thing that matters is that you love you FS and they love you!

My FH hasn't seemed that excited about the wedding either, until this month! We've had a very stressful year with COVID and everything, and guys just aren't typically that interested in the minor details and aren't that great at planning ahead. My FH has just started to talk about it more and plan with me at the last minute, which while yeah I would have loved and greatly appreciated it the whole dang time lol, I'm glad for the relief of stress as our wedding approaches and having him help me focus on the important things has helped me a lot. Sit your FS down and ask them the 3-5 most important things to them and make those a priority in planning. If they only care about the venue, photos, and family being there? Make those the top priority in budget and planning. If they don't care as much about the flowers or if there is a DJ vs a live band? Push those details off until a later day. I hated planning and trying to please everyone, so try to do just one small thing a day and break up your checklist! It'll help I promise! Good luck and I hope you start to get excited again, I know how disheartening unsupportive people can be.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for all the support. Honestly I was having a low moment and all of you ladies know just what to say to be supportive. Planning a wedding is different then I expected but you’re right I have to focus on the end goal which is being married which is what I am really actually excited for. Thank you 😊

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the advice. I was having a bit of a low moment when I was writing this out, venting about some worries that I know are 🙄.

It's your day so what you (and your fiance want) is the only thing that matters. I have to lay out every task for my fiance in order for him to even do it. I have my mom trying to manage all the details too which can be overwhelming but she just wants me to have a perfect day so she can show off. My soon to be mother in law is involved with absolutely nothing but then is mad that I am doing none of the traditional aspects or details that she expected. It can be stressful to plan but you will be happy with your results.

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Sarah if anything I learned from this forum there is always someone on here that wants to talk wedding with you. I am MOG and love to talk wedding, happy to listen to you talk colors and gowns, napkins, favors, or how much FH is not helping. Just know it is a big change happening to your life, a big commitment and that sometimes weighs heavy and you don’t realize it with all the planning going on, but deep inside it is there. Try some meditation and remember this is your and your FH wedding so do what you want, and if you ask for advice (or even if you don’t and it is given) nod you head and say thanks but do what you want.