I know, it’s a shocker. Most of the women I know are very close with their mothers. My mother and I are the opposite. To make a long backstory short, she was abusive and toxic when I was growing up. When she was finally able to dump me at my dad’s house in high school and never look back, she did so without hesitation.
That being said, the decision to not invite her was a decision I made early on. However, I have invited my grandmother (her mom) and my aunt (her sister). I am not particularly close with either of them, but we exchange holiday cards and well wishes every year so it only seemed natural to invite them. (The same goes with my fiancé, he invited family members that he is not super close to, but still friendly with)
The issue comes now where my mom knows I am getting married because of my aunt and grandmother telling her about their invitations. It never occurred to them that she might not be invited. So they are coming to me, asking to resend her invitation because “it got lost in the mail.”
How do I tell them that she is not invited without being too harsh or affecting their own decisions to attend?
I’ve looked at forums and advice columns in regards to telling a family member they weren’t invited, but those are usually focused around distant family.
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