My FH and I have been together 8 years come June... We've been engaged for close to 2 years now. Originally, we were supposed to get married June 6th, but came to a mutual agreement in February to call it off. This was a total nightmare, but he said he just didn't feel ready and like it felt rushed. Because of this, of course I'm not going to want to either! I don't want to plan a wedding and him not show up the day of!
I don't know why he feels this way, and he can't really give me a solid explanation as to why either. I'm just really frustrated and I'm becoming inpatient. I literally already had it all planned out, my bridesmaids had bought their dresses, Save the Dates were Mailed, My dress was altered and paid off.. EVERYTHING.
He has also said he gets nervous and doesn't want to be infront of a crowd.. so I suggest eloping. He agrees that sounds like a better idea, but when I try to plan it with him, he avoids the topic and has nothing to say about it. We already own a home together and have lived there for almost 3 years. I'm not sure what he's so afraid of. Then he also tries to tell me that I just want a wedding and not to marry him.. which is FALSE! It just seems like hes making excuses. But why?
I'm lost. I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I love him, can't see myself being with anyone else, and want to be his wife. But he's looking too much into it I guess and has chickened out. He says he loves me too and wants to marry me, but just doesn't know when. I have tried talking about it with him so many times. He actually says I bring it up too much!
I'm open to hear your alls thoughts and advice?
Thanks..