This is not by my choosing but by FHs wishes. The bridesmaid is FHs sister. Me and her are really close, FH thinks we are a little too close being that he has a strained relationship with her. But the issue is that a lot of family drama went down between him, his sister & his mom. A lot of disrespectful things were said (by her). His family is a little dysfunctional in the sense that they fight and then completely stop talking. This fight happened mid November and still they both haven’t talked to each other, not even at Christmas. He wants her to apologize or at least admit she shouldn’t have spazzed out on Him & cuss him out. She feels like shes the victim from the situation which is why she cussed him out and wants to put it behind her by not talking about it & pretty much act like nothing ever happened.
This puts me in a very awkward situation. He feels personally disrespected, and why would you want someone who disrespected you to be in your wedding? So I get it. If his brother/friend/cousin who is a groomsman really disrespected me, I might ask him to do the same.
I think I would fight for her if she was in the right, but unfortunately shes not. When something happens im the type of person who doesn’t just blame the other person, I reflect on faults for both sides and how both ppl could have done better. So not to say that FH is completely right, both of them could have communicated better but it wasn’t FHs fault.
I told his sister that if this fight created a war between her and her brother then hes not going to want her in the wedding. I said I really really hope they can recover and move forward from this.
This is more of a vent. Shes my really close friend but at the end of the day Im not going to let this cause potential problems between me & FH or on our wedding day, so if he really wants her dropped then I will side with him. This is his family drama not mine. Im just sad
update: had to haul out my laptop to edit this -_-
