I’m sad my mom isn’t excited...

Hello Wedding wire,

My problem is that my mom started out super excited about my engagement a few months ago, but as time has passed, she seems embarrassed of it for some reason. I am the only daughter and my brother got married 2 years ago and she was beyond ecstatic and wanted to go shopping and plan and help with the wedding and pay for anything my SIL parents would allow... after we got engaged, my mom doesn’t talk about it. Like it never happened. She talks to my extended family and her friends regularly and the other night I asked while she was on the phone if she told my aunt about the engagement and she scowled and whispered “NO! It isn’t even official yet”... granted my wedding isn’t for another year and a half, but I am hurt that she hasn’t told anyone and is encouraging me not to talk about it. When I bring up anything about the wedding or being excited she just ignores me or says something about how she isn’t paying if I don’t get my bachelors degree first (I go to school at night part time and work full time) which she didn’t have a problem with before. Am I getting worked up for nothing? Or did it bother you maybe that your mom seemed not only disinterested, but embarrassed? Like she is ashamed I am engaged? She loves my FH and when he asked me, she was crying in excitement and told me all about how hard it was to keep a secret from me, and he took her shopping for the ring and she got to pick it out and how he saw them every day for months so that he could ask for their permission... I’m very upset with how it is going so far. I’d like to be able to casually plan and not cram things in, but I want my mom to be at least not embarrassed of me 😢