I'm the loser coworker...(Vent?)

Maybe they are just clickish and it's not you? Are you the newest person in the office?

No.. I don't want to sound racist, but I am the only non-hispanic..I think that might have something to do with it. I'm also the youngest.

It just really sucks and I feel super lonely and isolated sometimes. Now is one of those times.

I wouldn't look into it too much. HOW much younger are you?

TBH, I try and avoid being too close with coworkers as it is. I have some coworkers who are very close and exclude me from some stuff. I really don't read into it. If I step back and look at the situation, I can say that I may have (not on purpose) done the same in the past.

Unless they are blatantly ignoring you or not fulfilling their job duties, I wouldn't worry.

I'm sorry you are experiencing this. Try to not pay them any attention and focus on your work....remember, your friends wouldn't do that to you, so it's not worth getting bothered by coworkers who don't want to be cordial or socialize with you.

I hear you. I work with a bunch of shitbags who hate me because I'm really good at my job. As much as I tell myself that it doesn't matter, it still sucks.

Awww sorry you feel isolated. It has to suck to feel like the odd one out. Have you tried making plans and inviting all of them to join? Perhaps they realize that you hate them and so they stay away? Maybe you just need to give them a chance so they will give you a chance?

@Patricia Hispanic people can be some of the coolest, most fun, ppl to hang out with.

for nearly 18 months I worked at an immigration law firm, 95 percent of the office was Hispanic. We went out all the time, I am still really close to a couple people have been invited over to my house, and I've been to there's for birthday parties and BBQs. Maybe they don't feel you want to be involved, since you're the only white person. Try asking, hey you guys doing anything today? Anyone want to grab a drink after work? You'd be surprised at the preconceived notions we have about people. I bet you go out with them and they'll confess they thought you were the one who didn't want to hang out with them.

Aurelia, I'm 21 - the next youngest is 25 and then the rest are 40+. I've never had this problem anywhere before. I'm very nice and friendly. It's not so much that I want to be their friend, but it hurts when they whisper plans around you and act as if you aren't even there.

I'm also FOR SURE being targeted. Our accountant has argued with my boss multiple times about my timesheets, despite everything I do being approved my boss. Yet my other coworker lies about coming in at 7:30, when she doesn't get here until between 7:50 and 8. She doesn't say anything about that coworker.

I'm not going to say anything quite yet, but my assignment is up in a few months and I am going to spill the beans during my exit interview. So much favoritism going on.

FFW, my best friend is hispanic, I have nothing wrong with hispanic people! My step-dad is also hispanic.. as are many people I know. That came off wrong if it seems that way. What I meant was, I don't quite fit in with them and their jokes and their way of thinking and I think that is contributing to the problem.

True story: I went out to lunch last week with a lady from my job, we work together this whole time and didn't ever speak to each other. We were waiting in line to vote in the primaries and we started talking, found out we had been ignoring each other and pass each other all the time. We have so much in common. We had lunch last week, and we're playing tennis this weekend.

I guess I don't really know how to explain how the situation at work. These feelings of hatred didn't start until their clique-ish ways started. It's a very toxic situation. Lots of gossip, including about me.

One of my coworkers actually told another I was lying about going to a meeting because I took my purse with me...WTF. I took my purse so I could buy a coffee at the ON CAMPUS coffee shop... Something they do daily.

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OP Let it go. Some people just need to eat a bag of dicks. I have no doubt you are awesome.

Years ago, I was the youngest in an office. The whole department seemed to hate me because I disagreed with 1 person. 13 women once all changed their hotel reservation to be at a separate hotel as me. Seriously, because of 1 person. Eventually we merged offices and the new departments brought a nice change of wind. They made her eat that bag of dicks and I had a nice new set of lunch buddies. Including the 13 other ladies.

I agree with FFW, you just need to approach one of them and ask them if they want to grab a drink. Or offer to go on the coffee run.

You may have a lot in common with them but you will never know until you try.

They just need to get to know you

Amanda, most days I am good. But some days it's really rough. Especially because I am REALLY nice to everyone.

Soontobe, I've been here for over a year. Things used to be good and then just one day they weren't.

Are you fairly new? I feel that way at a new job until I can adjust. Its hard.

I'm sorry you feel this way, but you can either ignore it or try to do something to get in everyone's good graces - donuts for the office? Those giant to-go coffee containers?

Up to you. I would probably ignore it.

That's not nice. Don't pay attention to them. I'm Hispanic and still get treated that way by other Hispanics. So f them. And if ur assignment is temp, even better so u won't have to deal with their negativity and shitty attitude.

I'm usually pretty good about ignoring it. I just pop my headphones in when they start gossiping. But every once in awhile it really just hits home. It's pretty bad right now because I know our accountant has been questioning my timesheets, even though I've done nothing wrong, yet she turns a blind eye to my other coworker who lies about being here at 7:30.

I'm in a pretty similar situation at work, I'm always about an inch from throwing my hands in the air and quitting. Honestly though, if your boss knows your a good/honest employee and the ladies are a bunch of catty biznatches, you're better off not being part of their group. Overall I think it makes a lot of sense to keep you coworkers at arms length, in a polite professional sort of way.