I'm the loser coworker...(Vent?)

I'm really sorry this is happening to you.

Well, you can't please everyone I guess. I'm sure you're a really nice person so it's their loss. You won't be there forever so I hope wherever you go next, will be a better place for you.

Hid last comment because I'm dumb and opened the wrong tab.

@Bryce LOL.

I've set up an internship to work for a Forensic Psychologist (what I am going to school for) so I'm sure it will be MUCH better. It's just dealing with the animosity now that is hard.

@Chelcie, I definitely don't overshare, but they don't even show me co-worker politeness.

Last week one coworker asked another who to contact about reserving a particular room. That coworker didn't know, but I gave her the answer...her reply "I guess I'll just look it up." S

SERIOUSLY? I just told you the answer. Fine, go create more work for yourself.

Being angry and resentful about how you're being treated is natural, but it's not going to improve your quality of life. This might be a 'kill them with kindness' scenario. Since they've started to isolate you I'm sure you're probably giving off some resentment and they're feeling it. Have you thought about bringing in some cookies for everyone? Or inviting one of the people you can tolerate to lunch? Maybe it will only take a little effort on your part to break into the group.

At my last job i was happy to not be buddies with my co workers....just think of it as you're there to work and get paid so you'll have money to spend with your real friends. co worker buddies suck anyways

To piggy back off @Kmess you can start with one, the one you like the most and go for lunch one day. It's hard (almost impossible) to jump in and just be cool with a group of women.

Thanks for the support, guys. Like I said, most of the time, I'm fine. But every once in awhile, I just have to vent.

I'm not even the newest though... the other newest coworker fit in just fine.

I am exactly this way. most times i dismiss it because i literally have too much work to do to sit around and gossip and don't think i should have to kiss ass to be liked at work. I just let them be. It's not the best work environment and sucks sometimes when the "clique" seems to be having a ball, but i get my shit done. I stay polite and cordial and assist where i can and keep it moving. Did them nothing and won't kiss up to a soul!

I had the same problem at my last job and after 3.5 years have finally moved on. I am happier now, I don't take about people and I'm not rude and it ticks me off when people do it to me...I would definitely bring it up at your exit interview....and find something else!

First of all, I hadn't seen your new avatar! Love it!!

About them, what a bunch of asscravats. I'm Hispanic and embarrassed to hear they're treating you like that! We usually take pride in being friendly and welcoming to everyone. Have you talked about this with your manager? Or, is there one that is the less ass-like that maybe would agree to grab coffee with you? Let them know that you like all of your coworkers (even if it's not true) and ask if they know why they might be acting like that. Tell them that you'd be happy to clear the air and fix whatever it is that is bothering them (which again I bet is not your fault). And see what happens.

Sending you hugs! Here on WW we think you're pretty neat

I've felt this way before. It's not fun:/

I feel ya! My coworkers have more in common with each other, so they always talk about certain shows/pop culture/music stuff that I couldn't care less about. And at times I definitely feel like the outsider, like they will group text to go to happy hour after work ad not invite me even if we were all in a mtg right before. I've learned that they are a pretty toxic group like they talk about each other when each other isnt around, so I can't expepct much from them. Anyway, I am sorry you are going through this, understand the vent, and am at least a little happy to know there are other people who feel similarly, although I wish you didn't!

Kill them with kindness. If you don't give them a reason to dislike you, they might not realize what they're doing, and it probably isn't personal.

It's a click mentality. Do you work with a lot of females? I do and see it all the time. I'm not really "friends" with anyone I work work. I'm friendly, but. But some of the girls will make big plans to go out together right in front of me. It used to bother me, but not anymore

Ugh I know how this feels. My office is 90% women. There's 3 upper management guys and just 2 other guys. The rest is female lol. And it's sales, so it can get extra intense. We have an instant messaging system throughout our office and it's SO obvious when you know two people are talking about someone else.

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Obnoxious.

But I overcome it by texting my best friends all day. You know, those people who don't suck. It's honestly gotten 10x better over the past couple months. I don't know what happened, something just clicked with us. Just be glad your situation is temporary!

Sorry about the delay, I left work and had to take care of DH, who sprained his ankle at work.

It's all females. I used to be okay with the youngest one (she's 25, I'm 21) but I'm not sure what happened. At this point it's not just clique behavior, but outright unethical behavior (such as our accountant turning a blind eye to lying about timesheets, yet questioning mine when I am always honest and get approval before missing/making up hours).

I don't want to exacerbate the situation by going to my boss...I only have a few months left (thank god).

KM, it's especially obvious when it's 5 feet from your desk....or when you walk into the room and they just stop talking and try to quickly change the subject..

ETA: VC, most people in my state are hispanic and I've never experienced this treatment. Hell, my BFF is hispanic.. There's an age gap, plus differing cultural mentality. I was venting to DH's BFF (who is also hispanic) and he said that cultural difference could definitely be a contributing factor.

And thank you for the compliment. It's my fav picture that I've ever taken.

It's hard to work with people who act like this, especially when you're there for 40+hours a week.

Have you ever thought of turning the tables and inviting each person out individually for lunch? Maybe they're making snap judgments and once they get to know you, will think otherwise?

I feel the same way Patricia. I work for a huge real estate company but I only work for one agent, so it's a weird team dynamic to begin with. Everyone in the office here is conservative and I'm a liberal. Everyone goes to church and I don't. They are into football and I'm into drag queens. They all drive Mercedes and I drive a Dodge Caliber. Our old buyer's agent has a freaking airplane for poop's sake. I smile and say hello but sometimes they just ignore me.

I am extremely shy and have a very hard time introducing myself to people or starting conversation. I will literally hold my pee in until I leave work and pee at the gas station because I get such anxiety about running into someone on the way to the bathroom.

They will invite me to functions but they don't speak to me in the mornings or say hello. Why would I want to go eat with you when you just stare at me when I say hello??