I'm the loser coworker...(Vent?)

Kristina, I shy away from doing that simply because they aren't trustworthy. I'd hate to do something one of them thought was stupid, only to be the subject of their next gossip session...again.

Courtney, I'm a people person. I've always interacted really well. I can be shy, but am outgoing most of the time. This social isolation is really hard for me because I'm a really friendly, caring, and empathetic person.

I'm with @Cats. Same boat.

@Patricia, have you tried suggested a coffee run maybe with one or 2 other ppl to get know them better? Worth a shot.

You'll never know till you try. As far as sharing anything that "could be used against you", just ask the other person a lot of questions or make small talk about weekend plans, etc.

I was totally in that situation in a job...and it WAS them, not me. Also poor management. I did what I could to remove myself from their orbit without damaging my position, and a couple years later, heard that their own pettiness had done them in. After a few key people in the clique left and more new folks came in who also hated the toxic environment, they went en masse to management with recorded complaints and got their manager demoted. Now I have multiple advanced degrees, an amazing job and a fantastic fiance...bitchy manager is stuck in a dead-end position and still lives with mom and dad.

Pettiness and bitchiness are eventually their own punishment. Living well IS the best revenge. (etc, etc, additional cliches)

Did you invite your co-workers to your wedding? If not, maybe that's what they're upset about.

In which case, just put a large wedding photo on your desk!

I did not invite them to the wedding because at that point they had been talking poorly about me, and making plans without me. I'm not going to spend an exorbitant amount of money on people who treat me like shit.

Things were fine before and then one day they weren't. I'm not sure what happened.

Sometimes, people are a little biased against "young coworkers". When I first started I got a lot of "well you couldn't possibly know a both X, you're so young!". They may have been right but I wish they would've just helped me learn. Now 3 years later I still am usually one of the youngest but I've gain more experience between my two jobs so I think people take me more seriously. I try not to say my age though because some people don't want to be managed by a 23 year old....

Personally, I try to keep work and friends separate. It's easier and sometimes we all do things in our personal lives that aren't bad but just not workplace appropriate such as going out at night and getting drunk or swearing... I don't want to blur the line between work and friends. But that doesn't mean I don't want coworker relationships. At my last job I started bringing treats in for our team the first Friday of the month. Then someone else joined in and took the last Friday. Slowly we started a rotation of treats every Friday just doing things within your work environment that are easy and appropriate.

SeptMrs. I think age is definitely part of it.