I'm a guy and I have never been in a wedding party as a groomsman or best man. As a kid I was never in a wedding while every other cousin was asked to have roles.
I'm very good friend and have gone out of my way to help people in college, work, and friends groups. I feel like such a loser because I have never been asked to be in a wedding. One of oldest and closest friends just announced his side of the wedding party and I'm not in it. I'm upset as I've planned to have this guy as my best man in my wedding. I'm engaged, but we won't be getting married until my fiancee is discharged from the Air Force.
I hate that I'm never good enough to be in anyone's big event. It hurts all the time and I can't talk to anyone about this because I doubt anyone understands. It sucks for me that I've spent years going to friends and relatives' weddings and see the wedding parties being honored and having fun with the brides and grooms. It sucks that I visted friends and relatives' wedding sites and had to read the wedding party bios while knowing that I wasn't good enough to make the cut in any of those weddings.
