I'm worried my wedding will be super tacky...

Yeah no, your wedding sounds amazing. It sounds like so much fun and honestly, sounds like the food will be bomb.

This is definitely a case of picky and/or upselling. My mom, for example, married her husband a year and a half ago, pretty small backyard wedding, which usually isn't my style really, and I STILL talk about how much fun it was and how AMAZING the food was - she had Mexican.

None of what you've described is tacky at all, I'm actually a little bummed that I don't know you IRL so that I can get an invite

ETA - Missed the honeymoon registry, definitely recommend skipping that. People will gift cash if you don't have an item registry, and you can use that money for the honeymoon.

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Oh my god, I would love if you could give me some help.... I've been at my wits end trying to figure this out!

View Quoted Comment What part of town are you looking At? How many people you thinking?

I think you and FH need to decide what you want and not worry so much about what other people think. There is always going to be someone who finds something wrong with any wedding, but who cares what someone like that thinks. The people who truly love and care about you the most will be there to support you and your FH on your big day regardless of whether you do everything you listed in your post. Personally, I think the main things that are really important at a wedding are to make sure your guests are taken care of. Do provide them good food and alcohol, but I don’t think the type of food and alcohol really matters, as long as there is enough of it. All that other stuff doesn’t really matter much. No one is going to hate your wedding because you had a money dance (which in my opinion is the most tacky thing on that list, lol), and if they actually did then they are unreasonable and who care what someone like that thinks.

Thank you guys so much for all of your contributions! I think what I'm dealing with here is really just a case of picky family- my family is the type to always find something to complain about. But me and my FH are mainly just worried about something that will make us happy, and our family having fun- rather than pretending to be rich for a day.

Also, hi to all the Pittsburgh brides!!!! I'm so happy to see other people going through this in Pgh too.

I think everything you said is fine. I love the dollar dances! I always pick the person I'm not close with to dance with so I can chat with them for a minute without taking them away from everyone else the rest of the night. Of course the honeyfund is controversial, some will say it's okay, some won't, but if you want it then do it. People that don't like it can still give you money.

I mean, I’ve been to one wedding with a money dance and I did think it was kind of strange for like half a sec because I personally had never seen one before, but I wasn’t like OMG THE HORROR!!! I loved the couple and think they are super classy people and nothing like that would change my opinion of them, that’s just silly.

People on this site hate honeymoon registries, dollar dances, and anything other than an open bar. I don't see why they're so adamant against it because, to me, it totally is a personal decision of the bride and groom. Like others have said, it's your wedding. Do what makes you both happy and don't let any talk otherwise bother you. It's you two who will be remembering this day and how personal it was to you both.

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Good catch, I missed that part.

OP - What's the timeframe for your reception?

I'm sorry but there is nothing wrong with what you want for your wedding. You will find that a lot of people on wedding wire are doing some of the same things that you are including myself. First, stop talking about your wedding to people that way you don't have to worry about their opinions. Do what you want don't worry about what other people think. Just because it's not something they wouldn't do doesn't make it tacky. Your ideas sound like fun.

Honeyfund and dollar dance are tacky. Otherwise, you do you.

Dollar dance is tacky. Honeymoon registry is tacky. I would side-eye both. Everything else is fine.

Pittsburgh bride here too - Bethel Park.

Who cares what people say about this being tacky or that being tacky? Etiquette schmetiquette. Do what you want. It's your day! Money dance? Go for it. Firehall reception? Do it! Honeyfund? Helllloooo to a Shark Tank success story so there are PLENTY of people out there who don't think it's tacky. We're not doing it, but what fun it is to give money for a trip for the couple (and no, there is no fee.) What's the difference if someone registers for a massage on their honeymoon or a teapot? Nothing. Lots of weddings only have beer and wine, so your signature drinks are a bonus.

At the end of the day, people are going to come, have fun and celebrate your marriage. No one will be complaining of wackiness while they're noshing on their free meals and drinking their free drinks. :-)

Personally, I think ballroom weddings are the tackiest, cliche thing in the book. I wouldn't worry. It's your wedding. And if anybody says otherwise tell them they don't need to come to your FREE FORKING PARTY.

Where are you from and where are you planning on getting married. Do lots of research. You can have a very glamorous wedding on a very minimal budget. You just have to use your imagination and be creative. Don't ever go with first choice unless you know for sure.

UO but I'm fine with a honeyfund. I personally wouldn't have one because its controversial, but I honestly don't see how its different from a registry. I'm spending money either way so I would rather just give you what you want! Experiences are worth more than tangible items, especially ones you don't need. I get not using a "honeyfund" site just because they take portions of the money gifted, but in general I don't think its tacky!

Do what's best for you and your FH. It is YOUR wedding.

Honeymoon registries are not tacky. Period. Some people don't need spoons, they need funds to support a life. People really need to get over it. Do whatever YOU want on your wedding day. It's all about you and your FH. Xo

For starters, I think it's great that you're thinking about all this!

Banquet halls are extremely common, and absolutely acceptable. I've never heard anyone with a problem with this.

Dads are irreplaceable. I wouldn't want anyone besides him doing it either.

BBQ or Mexican both sound delicious. But you definitely need to provide a full dinner at dinner time. People will be hungry. It doesn't matter if it's anything fancy, but it has to fill people up.

Only beer and wine is perfectly fine, as long as you keep giving that to guests for a while.

I'm indifferent to memorial tables. I have no opinion on cakes. Sheet cakes are fine.

I definitely find dollar dances tacky though. I don't even bring cash to weddings, and if I do have it on me, I want to use it for tips for bartenders or cab drivers, not to the people I already gave a generous gift to.

Not a fan of honeymoon registries. I really don't get it. Just don't have a registry, and people will bring you cash that you can chose to put towards your honeymoon.

Halloween theme sounds fun, as long as it's subtle. Don't make it look like the walking dead.

Don't invite coworkers, you're totally right.

Lots of people don't wear full length wedding gowns. I had wanted a short one, but changed by mind. Both can be beautiful.

Basically it comes down to, don't ask for money. Everything else is fine!

Good luck!

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A honeymoon isn't supporting a life. It's not a necessity. If there's no registry, I give cash, which seems like a much better option for everyone.