I'm worried my wedding will be super tacky...

Hey there! I'm a Pittsburgh bride who is also on a strict budget. We're getting married at the Walled Garden @ Mellon Park and our reception is at the pittsburgh center for the arts and I would be happy to talk to you more about your pittsburgh experiences.

I've found that if you're willing to travel a bit out of the city, like to Butler/Kittaning/Indiana,etc. the prices are SO affordable.

I know that a lot of people will give you crap about the money dance and honeymoon fund...but I truly don't find a problem with either. We're doing the money dance (same as you - we have NEVER been to a wedding in this area that hasn't done it, and FH's mom is polish). We did not do a honeymoon registry, but go for it if you want. I would just advise creating a registry that has tangible items, too.

My very first suggestion is that you really limit the guest list, if you can. And be firm about it.

Why don’t you just do what you want? If they aren’t paying for any of it who cares? And even then you should do what you know is going to make you and your husband happy and your big day special. I think it’s all very unique and I would stick with it.

Hey other Pittsburgh brides! I’m from Elizabeth Township! I’m getting married in Florida since I live here now but I will say, every Pittsburgh wedding I’ve been to has either been in a barn, a fire hall, or a hotel banquet room. I totally understand the dollar dance, because every PA wedding I’ve been to has had one but since moving to Florida I also totally understand how so many people think it’s tacky and weird. I’m not doing a dollar dance, it’ll offend my FH super southern family. Which I’m fine with because I don’t really like the idea of it either.

I would skip the honey fund. I don’t think it’s in good taste to ask for money. And even though many sites suggest using one, it’s still very tacky. Guests can bring cash/checks in your card if they want to, they don’t have to be told or asked. They’ve been doing it for years without cutesy poems or websites. A honeymoon is a vacation, you should pay for it yourself.

We we are doing the cookie table to keep a little tradition. A Halloween wedding sounds fun! And no one has a say over the dress you pick. No one.

Also, I’m having BBQ. But again, I live in the south now so BBQ is a religion and all of my guests are really excited about it because we went with an amazing and notable caterer in our area.

Other than a few etiquette things, you can’t let people’s opinions get to you about little things, like what you wear. I’m assuming you’re telling people your plans since you’re concerned with their opinions. So I’d stop talking to everyone about your wedding and if they ask, just tell them it’s a surprise or you’re still working out the details.

Nothing you are doing is tacky. i’m also doing mexican catering & my fh & i love it bc it’s unique, fun & yummy food. dollar dances i’m not a fan of but they’re tradition to some- have it or don’t. you could register on zola & have an option to donate to the honeymoon- i don’t think that’s tacky but i’m also like who cares? people try to impress others too much with this crap & it should just be a fun, loving ceremony imo. enjoy!

Don't worry about all that!! do what you want. my wedding will be buffett style which people on here don't like, there will be no alcohol which is a huge deal apparently (F and I are religious), and won't really be any dancing. its a brunch wedding and during the morning/early afternoon. I was getting stressed seeing all the brides post about how much they've spent but I realized the people at my small wedding are true family and friends and they'll be happy to just see the joining of a couple. good luck!

To me, the honeymoon registry and dollar dance are both really tacky and could actually offend some people because it's like begging for money. I definitely wouldn't do either of those. The Halloween theme sounds a little untraditional but also potentially really fun, and I doubt it would actually offend anybody, though some people might find it a little weird, not sure. But who cares what judgmental people have to say about your theme because that is your choice! Plus it's unique. Literally everything else you listed seems fine, they're just trying to get you to spend more money.

Heck I’m doing my wedding in my own backyard with just bbq, beer and wine and good friends this all sounds fine, do what makes you happy!

It's your Wedding, do want you both want. If people aren't accepting what you want, they don't have to come.

None of this is tacky!!! I think they’re super great ideas, especially the Mexican/bbq!! They’re all not the typical wedding choices which I think are really fun and not tacky AT ALL!! Your wedding sounds like tons of fun!

You and your fiancé should do whatever you want for your wedding. This is a special day for the both of you. You cannot make everyone happy but at least do things that you and your fiancé want. Many people told me and my fiancé that we should have done better planning. But since we are paying everything ourselves for no more than 10K, we made cuts. We wanted a wedding that represented us.

We're having our wedding ceremony and reception at a brewery. We're serving BBQ, donuts in lieu of cake, I am wearing a tea length dress instead of a gown, etc. We are even cutting out the dancing and plan to do outdoor games like giant Jenga, corn hole and horseshoes. The wedding is on Sunday from 12-4 too which a lot of people are very upset about.

Both my mother and my fiancé's mother were getting mad that we weren't inviting the whole family. We decided to only invite guests 21+ and didn't invite every single family member. We are planning to have no more than 100 guests.

Do what makes you and your fiancé happy. Wedding planning is stressful but you and your fiancé should be able to call the shots even if everyone thinks you should do things differently.

In my option it’s your wedding!!! Who cares what anyone else thinks. You are he one in 10 years who is going to look back at it and either love it or wish you’d done a Halloween theme or had Mexican food. I’m having pizza because it’s our favorite food. Anyone could tell you that. And I’ve been told on here it’s tacky! But at the end of the day it’s your budget and YOUR wedding so you do you boo!!! From one tacky bride to another!!!

The only thing that you listed that I would do differently than you are doing is instead of sheet cake do either a dessert table with many options or a cupcake display!
Other than that everything sounds just fine

Do what you want because its your day. The honeymoon thing is super popular now. Don't let negative people steer you away from your day!

I wouldn't worry about what others think is tacky, do what you two want.

Listen my first wedding I did everything "by the book" white dress 10k bill (by the way try looking to book on a Thursday it cuts way down on price) photographer walk down to classical music invited the right people I did it all and you know what...... That marriage didn't last 6 months before I wanted to leave and I was divorced before the 3rd year line so What did it get me...... a bill for a divorce lawyer and a lot of regret. This time my dress is black and red, there is 16 people that are going to be there that day my friend is taking pictures with my camera and I'm making my center pieces from things from the thrift store and having pasta and sandwiches and soup as a lunch menu..... And the best part I'm marrying my best friend the person that I have no question is my soulmate. Forget about what anyone other then you and you FH want it's a day to celebrate you as a couple and it should reflect who you are not what anyone wants you to be.

You've received some excellent advice on here. I think I can only add "Congratulations" and please have the wedding you and your FH want. It's your day!!❤

I have seen all of those things. I worked at an event center that had a carnival theme wedding, I've been to a wedding that had Mexican food that wasn't plated. My wedding will be at a train Depot. I have also had many people tell me to elope and not worry about everything. I can see the stress of everything and how overwhelming it can be. Talk with your FH and make the decision with him.

Biggest thing to remember is that it is YOUR wedding!! Many things you mentioned, my fiancé and I are doing. We are having a Halloween themed wedding, we are having a big BBQ blast with our closest friends and relatives. We are not inviting co-workers and we are also not willing to go into debt over a wedding. If people do not like what we are having, they don’t have to come... your wedding should be a fun and happy day, not an stressful one. This is for YOU, not your guests.

It is Y'ALLS wedding!! Who is saying it is tacky? There is nothing wrong with having Mexican food. There is nothing wrong with having your wedding someplace other than a ballroom. People get married everywhere- parks, art museums, churches, outside, in barns...it is what THEY want to do- this is what that couple has envisioned. There is no right or wrong place to get married.

View Quoted Comment Most of my mom’s family live in Elizabeth. 😀