Hello! I am American, my fiancé is British and we are getting married this summer here in North Carolina, where we live and where I grew up. My fiancé has been very supportive of wedding planning so far and the whole experience has been amicable. We are splitting the wedding costs equally and as my parents wanted to invite a small group of their friends, they are pitching in too. My family is bigger than his side and so we all agreed on a 120 person guest list: 60 for my allocation of family and friends, 50 for his and 10 for my parents.
I always knew the wedding would be imbalanced to some extent because it is here in North Carolina where most of the guests live and always expected some of his friends/family to decline due to the distance and expense.
What I did not expect was how many of his side declined or simply did not respond. Whilst I have already maxed out my allocation and my parent’s allocation, only 5 people have accepted and 2 have tentatively accepted from his allocation. The reasons they give are all valid, but we are disappointed especially as we have traveled for some of their weddings. We now have the prospect of a woefully imbalanced guest list and empty seats. I can fill these seats up with more friends and extended family from my side, but this will only add to the imbalance.
I am worried how my fiancé and his guests will feel at the wedding and what my family / friends will say when they see so few guests from his side. He has offered to invite some of his colleagues but I have not met any of them and I don’t want him to feel he has to invite people just to fill seats.
What should I do? I should have got commitment from the guests abroad before I did anything else!