In-law horror stories... & go!

OMG My FMIL....where do I start. She has been acting like she should be marrying my FH - trying on my ering and talking about how nice it looks on her and then putting on my wedding band. Then she keeps going behind my back and talking smack about my family and I to her relatives. She has tained my relationship with my FSIL (by clamming I hate her kids (age 11 and 15), that I don't want them around, I am barring them from the wedding). She has told me to f-off. Lied bold face to my family and even said that I need to be put in a mental institution because I am crazy. Posted shit publicly on my FH's FB page about me, and then said Oh well you weren't meant to see that.

I can't take this crap anymore. I mean there is so much more but I don't want to bore y'all.

Nothing says "stop" like telling someone GO!

i am a lucky dil and mil

My favorite MIL story.. I recently lost 50lbs. When I had lost about 30 my MIL said to me when we were out at dinner "you've lost weight! I had better get on my diet or I'm going to wind up being the fattest person in the family!" Ummmm pretty sure she told me to my face I was the token fat person in the family!

Another doozy - I'm spiritual versus religious. She was asking if FH and I would baptize our kids. I told her FH and I would have to make that decision together as I would vote no but if FH feels strongly about baptism I'd consider it with him. Her response "well if you decide against it how mad would you be if I was babysitting one day and just had it done" ummm what lady?! You're plotting to take my future child to some drive thru baptism behind my back?! I die. Love her but man does she say some off the wall things to my face!!

I love my fmil but.... before my FH purposed he asked my fathers permission.. my father was so excited he told my mother and sister. So they all knew it was coming. He also talked to his father the day he picked up the ring and told him. So she was the only one who didn't know. Well the day he purposed I was so excited and they live up the street from us. I assumed she knew it was coming. She didn't and was so upset that she was one of the last to know that she didn't act excited. She actually said "where did you get the money" lol awkward! I just stood there like what?!? He had already told them he was saving for it. I said he got the money stripping... and tried to laugh it off. She was so upset that she was left out that they my FH and his father went for a walk and I stayed behind with her she didn't say anything to me and said she had more time on the show she was watching! She watched the show and I sat their heartbroken. It took her like a week to snap out of it. Still kind of hurts. But she is awesome but can have a little bit of FOMO!

I was engaged 4 years ago, and the FMIL tried getting with me and got jealous and butt hurt when I didn't...and she was dating my friend for 5 years! Of course though she made it seem like concern for her daughter. I soon found out one was as evil no malignant as the other. Very well disguised. Thankfully, never was married to that.

@lucky that's terrible I would have been LIVID!!

Wow @Rebecca!! So sorry to hear that.

My FH's parents are both gone, as his his step-mom. My ex's dad has also been gone for years, but his mom is still around. She will ALWAYS be my mother-in-law, and I love her dearly!

I only warmed up to an idea of a large wedding when MIL said she would help "with all" and I just needed to make decisions and she would do it. Well, I scrambled together some save the dates, sent them out and gave her about 5 that she said she would get addresses for. I go to her house 10 days later and they are still sitting on her table. Wtf. So I'm basically on my own. She has helped financially but I have a 8 month old baby. I literally need help doing things. I don't have a mom or a lot of family around so I've done a ton of stuff. The upside to that it is when can do it...lunch times or when baby goes to bed. When I think about it, I get very resentful.

Ugh I couldn't finish-im staying grateful, and trying to be gracious. She is a giving person. But I felt I was promised, and she voided that. My fiance is in school/finishing up his teaching certification so I can't have him help much.

I cant say I have any horror stories. My FMIL is great! If you asked my FH this question he would write you a book about my mom lol

@Chip Me2, but he is an only child so I get it. After a few talks from DH and everything is better than ever now.

@Jay lol same

@Love_andMarriage - the worst part was the shower drama. First she gets mad because I want an adult only party and won't invite her 10 yr old granddaughter (whom I have NO relationship). Then she goes to my FSIL and says it is because I hate her daughter (uh, barely spent any time with her! I am indifferent to her lady!). Make all this drama, day after day, yells at my Mom and demands that the 10 year old be allowed to come. FSIL then refused to come to my shower because FMIL has her convinced I hate her and her daughter (also not true). Then FMIL tells my Mom that I guess FSIL is coming because the 10 year old is at Comic Con with her day.

They had the tickets to Comic Con for 3 months and she knew she was going. The whole thing was a moot point about her coming!!!! Why did she make all this drama about it???

When my Mom asks where my FSIL is, FMIL makes an excuse. As she is walking out the door, she mutters to me, "The both of you can f-off."

Lets just say I have been crying with this for 3 weeks straight and it is putting a MASSIVE strain on my relationship with my FH.

My FIL are great. Now I cannot say the same about my mother towards my FH

I had a great relationship with my FMIL until FH proposed to me. Initially, she was excited about the wedding and then became very possessive. I heard that while FH was ring shopping, she kept suggesting rings that she would like, adding that wasn't all about me. It took me and my FH a year to book a single vendor, every time we researched something FMIL had something negative to say. First, if we didn't get married in a church she would make sure his family disowned him. Then when we wanted to have our reception in a restaurant, FMIL said she wouldn't invite any of her family because our "wedding would be an embarrassment and a sh** show". Recently, she has relaxed which I'm very grateful for. But I'm also anticipating another tantrum.

@Amanda that was me too!! We had an awesome relationship until we got engaged. Then she tried to control our lives.

@Kati that's a grandma who'd NEVER be babysitting my kids!!! What else will she do behind you back?! Mercy! My FMIL sure knows how to cause drama... it's amazing lol. I've been trying to take it with stride and gain her friendship we have yet I see how that goes...

Love my inlaws. Now if you as fh the same he may think differently. My fam is drama lol

@Rebecca

I've spoken to some coworkers that are closer to her age and lean toward traditional. They've told me to cut her some slack, she's probably emotional because she's had control and now we're essentially taking their sons away and not pay any attention to it. As long as FH supports you, then you'll make it through. Is your FH her only son?

My MIL is amazing as is my Aunt in Law (her sister). My husband's father (his mom and dad have been divorced for 30 years), however, doesn't even know my name. It's been the running joke in our house for about 2 years. Haha!