In-laws and Relationships

So in the grand scheme of things I’m super lucky because FH’s parents have been super welcoming since day one and are very go with the flow about the wedding. And they live two hours away, so close enough to visit but not be around all the time. With that being said, I never talk to them or see them just me, only through him, and I’m not emotionally attached because our political views do NOT align. We all just have a silent agreement to not discuss politics when we’re around each other, which his mom sometimes slips up on.

I’m very close with my fiancés family! I consider them my family as well. I call his siblings my brother & sister and his parents are my other mom and dad. His nana is my nana. I love them all so much — including his cousins, tías, & tíos. My partner and I have been together for 9 years (starting dating at 16/17) and met in high school to give some background. We see each other’s family often because we live in the same city. I would say we both are very family oriented and it’s what made us decide to move back to our hometown after living out of state for a few years.

View Quoted Comment That is awesome that his parents have been so welcoming to you! It's a good policy to not discuss politics (or any other subject that may cause controversy) with them. My husband and I have a few people in our lives who we love being around, though we have a similar policy to you, where we avoid topics like politics and religion. Setting that boundary is a great way to avoid issues.

View Quoted Comment Aww, that's so sweet that you are so close to his family! Even cooler that you and your fiance chose to move back to your hometown to be closer to both of your families. Are you including his siblings as part of your wedding party?

I think I'm learning that mine hate me and would rather have their son marrying someone else.

But... they are VERY religious. Their son isn't and they hate that too. So... maybe they don't like him very much either.

It's been tough, to say the least.

We are all very close. She tells me I’m her favorite when the boys are teasing her or having fun. His dad always invites me over and buys treats for me for the Super Bowl. They have really always accepted me and called me their own. My mom and stepdad adore my FH (so lucky) and are so grateful I found someone to grow with. My dad likes him, I can’t say much for him as he is a private man with his feelings, but I know it’s all good .
We really are so blessed that we all love each other!

View Quoted Comment I'm so sorry that they aren't accepting of you as their son's wife. They might not actually hate you, but instead they may be upset that their son isn't marrying who they envisioned that he would marry, and they are unfairly taking it out on you and your fiance. Hopefully with time, they'll process their emotions and realize that their son gets to make his own choices, even if those choices don't align with what his parents want, and hopefully they'll grow to realize that you are a good match for their son.

View Quoted Comment Very cool that you're all so close! That's awesome that they truly consider you as part of their family, and that your family is just as accepting of him.

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I appreciate you, thanks for the kind words.

Overall I'd say I'm pretty close to them! Things are sort of rocky with FH's dad's side. Him his dad are no contact and we don't see all of the extended family often, but they're always welcoming when we do. I absolutely adore his mom's side of the family though! They've been super welcoming and inclusive since he introduced me. I don't neccessarily talk to them frequently outside of visits/gatherings, I'm just sort of a quiet, keep to myself type of person most of the time, but I've gone to quite a few big family events solo when FH has been out of town working (baptisms, showers, birthday parties, a wedding) and his sister asked me to be the godmother to her youngest so I feel like we all have a good relationship.

View Quoted Comment Aww, that's so sweet that his sister asked you to be the godmother to her child! Very cool that you have such a good relationship with his mom's side of the family.