My brother is getting married this fall, and when his fiancee asked me to be a bridesmaid I was flattered. I definitely did not expect or assume that I would be included. However, my brother did *not* ask my husband to be a husband, and my husband had assumed that he would be included. (Honestly, this never occurred to me.) I am the only married sibling of the couple, so I just assumed it was a structural/in-law thing.
But then things got worse: I found out the bride's brother's girlfriend (not married, not engaged) *is* going to be a bridesmaid. Now I have a very upset husband, and I'm honestly a little offended myself that the bride's brother's dating-relationship is being valued more highly than my marriage.
Obviously, I'm not going to talk to the couple and make them feel guilty, but I do need to figure out how to let the wedding be a positive experience for my husband and I, and not something that drives a wedge between us as a couple and my brother and his new bride.
Thoughts? Suggestions? Please?