In laws don't think we deserve Honeymoon

Eh, a bit of an unpopular advice here - but, if she's willing to contribute more towards the wedding why not take that money, put it towards your wedding, and take whatever money you are contributing (assuming you are?) to your wedding and put that towards a honeymoon?

You, of course, have to decide if letting her have more say (in the wedding ... not the honeymoon .. she should not be funding that) is worth you being able to afford the honeymoon. I think yes but I don't know how crazy her demands could be.

After the expense of our wedding FH and I will not have the money to have a honeymoon since we r paying for it ourselves and in cash not credit. We r going away for 3 days right after the wedding. Our honeymoon will be a yr later for our 1yr anniversary. We will take that yr to pay off the honeymoon.

Save money and take a honeymoon when you can afford it.

Don't take their money if you don't want them to get involved with the planning.

You can always delay the honeymoon until you two can afford one.

It does sound like you can't afford one yourselves right now, and others are right- if you can't pay for one, you might not get one right away.

Honeyfunds are also very frowned upon here. Your guests took time off of work (if applicable), traveled, and bought you a gift to spend the day with you. Honeyfunds look like "Give us more money!"

I hope you guys can figure it out! Everyone does deserve a honeymoon, and in a perfect world, everyone would get one. Unfortunately, this world is far from perfect.

We are doing better jars at our wedding! It's a bet to see who takes the Cake. I have a very close family and they all want to give something to us but can't bring gifts. So we have a his and hers jar with a sign saying "who takes the cake, put your bet in!" Not everyone has to do it and I'm not expecting a ton of cash. But it is doubling as our honeymoon fund. Whoever gets the most cash in their jar gets the most cake in the face 😂. We are paying to go on a cruise and since he is in the military we aren't doing a wedding/engagement party. We have asked people to not give gifts we are asking for gift cards or cash so we don't have to lug everything around.

Unfortunately if you do not have the money to pay for your honeymoon you wont be able to do it, right now. Saving up and doing something in a couple of months or even for your one year would be wonderful for y'all to do.

Your finacés mom sounds very rude I am sorry for how she is acting towards you. Try (if you can) to sit down and talk to her with your FH. Even tho they are putting a lot of money towards y'all's wedding that DOES NOT mean they have to make it their day. It's YOUR wedding. Not theirs. You deserve to have the day of YOUR dreams not your FMIL.

Even if you don't have that much saved go do something for a small "honeymoon" go watch a movie and stay at a nice hotel. There are plenty of awesome little and cheep things you guys could do. Best of luck to you! I hope it all works out.

I would delay the honeymoon a year or so and save up for one.

A honeymoon is a luxury. If you can’t afford to go on one then don’t. You also shouldn’t ask others to pay for your vacation.

FH and I can’t afford a honeymoon so we’re not taking one. 🤷🏼‍♀️ It is what it is. I would never dream of asking someone for money for one, and I’d be utterly embarrassed to have a honeyfund or jar at the wedding.

We’re planning to take a long weekend mini-honeymoon in about a year. What about something like that?

Agree with PP, unfortunately if you cannot afford a honeymoon, you just can’t do it. I personally don’t have an issue with honeyfunds but I know they are frowned upon here at WW. If you do set one up, don’t book anything beforehand as you don’t know if people will contribute or not.

FH & I can’t afford a honeymoon right away, so instead we are opting for a minimoon. We will be driving to the mountains in our state (about 4 hours) and staying in an Airbnb Easter Sunday through the following Wednesday. Not sure where you’re from but a small trip out of town for a few days might be something you can save up for.

You should not ask them to contribute to your honeymoon but if you guys want to do a honeymoon fund go for it! Your FMIL may be wrong about people using it. the advice about the cruise sounds pretty good, choose a honeymoon that you can pay off in the months leading up to the wedding.

If they don't give you funds and no one contributes then you won't have a honeymoon. It's not the end of the world. You can take a honeymoon whenever. But if you're expecting people to finance your vacation you should stop. No one is obligated to pay for that. It's your responsibility to make sure you can do that yourself.

1. You have to pay for your honeymoon, and what they think shouldn't matter, regardless of how much $$ they're putting into the wedding.

2. Honeyfunds are not a good idea

3. I understand your frustration with your parents. My (super rich and kinda rude) grandpa, upon hearing we're doing a cruise for our honeymoon (which I've saved for this past year), angrily said "Well WE didn't go on our first honeymoon until our 10-year anniversary!" Parents and grandparents are great as using their experience as the standard for others, even if its 20-50 years later. Just take it with a smile, and remember it for when/if you have kids or nieces/nephews.

Honestly, if you do not have to money to pay for it, then accept the fact that you will not have a honeymoon. You cannot ask or force other people to pay for it. If you want freedom to do what you want, then you need to use your own money, but unfortunately, that is not your case.

I'd look for other financing options, or you can keep your honeymoon low-cost, because after all, what really matter is to spend a romantic vacation with your loved one.

We have a small honeymoon registry with a few activities that people can contribute toward, which isn't quite the same as a general honeymoon fund--but I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I've contributed towards several honeymoon registries in the past, I think it depends on how you phrase it. I like buying my friends fun experiences just as much as getting them le creuset or something. We contributed towards someone's honeymoon fund and they told us afterward that they went to a restaurant that we had recommended to them which was special that we got to be a part of their honeymoon.

I also know of some couples who did a little local mini-moon to the beach/mountains immediately after the wedding so they still got to celebrate, and then had a delayed honeymoon a few years later after saving up.