In laws hate me

It's unfortunate that they are giving you the thought/feeling that they will be spiteful and selfish on your wedding day, but do your best in ignoring the negativity from them. Don't let them spoil and stress you out. They are not worth it.

I would talk to your fiancé about it so he can be a buffer.

View Quoted Comment I’ve spoken with him and he has addressed his family. But they will never stop it’s been going on since we first got to together 6 years ago. I don’t want to keep dealing with this kind of drama for the rest of our lives together and put my child in the middle. But I wouldn’t want to allow my child to be around people who disrespect or wish bad on his mother.

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I truly understand how you may feel. How does your fiancé feel about this?

View Quoted Comment He’s very upset

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Has he given you advice on how you should proceed with his family? It is a very sensitive topic, but I would listen to your fiancé and respect your fiancé's family at all times. Even if that means just speaking. Everyone can coexist.

I deal with it with my fiancé’s sister. What really sucks is I knew her before him, we were not so much good friends but acquaintances who mostly just talked on fb. But she got really mad when we started dating because she doesn’t like when either of her brothers have a girlfriend. She was very passive aggressive at first and then had a whole big blow up horrific non stop messaging session to me. I didn’t even read most of it she was being so mean. Decided to not deal with her anymore after that. It’s very uncomfortable to go to family things because of her. We mostly ignore each other. It’s just so awkward. And it’s been 5 years now, our relationship is the real deal, get over it.

Oh and she used to talk crap about me to mutual friends too. Some of my best friends. I’m sure she still would if they ever hung out, which they don’t, as she’s such a miserable person in general she’s driven all her old friends away.

Sometimes you have to just block them out. Also decide with your FH if its necessary to have them at your wedding. Or have a destination wedding where they may or may not come based on the cost and the distance.