In laws needing us to change wedding date

How does your fiance feel about this? If they are okay with having it on your anniversary and their parents might not attend then go for it. There are 365 days in a year, seems like I'd take those odds and settle on a date. However most places around me are completely booked for 2022 weddings, is the venue you want available that date? If you were to get married in 2023 you'd have more time to save and plan as well.

I would go ahead and book the May date, if you can. If they could move anytime in 2022 then it's unlikely it will be the same weekend. I think it's unreasonable for them to ask you to give up an entire year for something they don't even know yet. This also may depend how close your fiancé is with his stepdad; he has to decide if it's worth pushing it off that far.

I personally wouldn’t consider a wedding without my parents , so would offer my partner the same. If he doesn’t want to plan a wedding not knowing if his parents would make it , I’d respect that and plan for when we know they can. Your parents opinion shouldn’t weigh in here, and an elopement shouldn’t be necessary either unless there is some particular extreme circumstance.


Actually we did end up pushing our wedding back a year so that my husband’s brother could attend after some health issues. It was SO important to my husband that he be able to be there, I wouldn’t have considered trying to move forward while his condition was still unknown. Also considered changing venue entirely to something more accessible to him even though our venue was the only place I ever saw myself getting married , but thankfully didn’t need to do that! My learned perspective was that sometimes life happens along the way and you just roll with it. Only my wedding was on hold, not the rest of my life, and not my relationship. But, everyone has their own priorities. The ones that matter here are yours, and your partners.

I have a similar issue where my fiancés dad asked us to move our June 22 date and we just refused. If it were a medical issue, we’d be more likely to acquiesce but it’s around a move and we are providing over a years notice to them. It could potentially be different if they were footing the bill or something and we were asking for financial help but they’re not so we’re just moving forward. I was actually appalled at the audacity of their request. Not sure if that helps but I feel your pain. I don’t think you’re being rude or unaccommodating for keeping the wedding day that will be your anniversary forever.

It is going to be hard to book a venue for May if you wait till November to decide.
Long time military and then spouse - he can work leave into his orders. Or request leave when he gets to his new duty station in most cases. I am assuming since it’s hid dad, he has some seniority and he’s not a private who will just be told to suck it up.

May 4th is a popular date and its your actual anniversary. I would keep your date. They wont know their move date for another 6mo, its highly unlikely that their move & ur wedding will be the same exact day. It’s possible but I would hope for the best and get married on your actual anniversary.

Do what you and your fiancé wants to do, I'm sorry but the day is about you two. Definitely keep your date, hopefully they'll be able to make it