In-laws

I would stop telling your future brother-in-law what plans you have. Or, if he gives an opinion you don't agree with, respond with something along the lines of, "Thanks, we'll consider it" (and then ignore it), or, "We already decided what we're doing for that part, but thank you for your input!" You and your fiance get to make all the decisions for your wedding.

You have a very long time until your wedding. Just smile and nod and stop sharing ideas with him.

View Quoted Comment Lisa,
That sounds good. I'll use those lines. And I'll definitely stop sharing details.

View Quoted Comment Katie,
I'll definitely stop sharing details.

I agree with Lisa. You both are paying, so you make the final decision. He can offer ideas, but it's you both that get the final say.

View Quoted Comment Shelly,
I agree. We get the final say.

Your wedding is still extremely far away so I wouldn't even discuss your plans at this point with him. Once it is closer, I still wouldn't discuss your plans as it is your wedding and he doesn't get to pick what you do.

How does your BIL even have any influence over what you do? Like he doesn't talk to vendors or anything, right?

View Quoted Comment Veronica,
Thank you. That is good advice

View Quoted Comment My fiancé's parents both passed away and he practically raised her, so he's actively involved. His opinion really matters to her. But even she is a bit annoyed with his wedding march remark

I recommend you not Tell him any details. Just the date abd venue. Nothing more than that.

If it is just you two paying for the wedding it is your decision on everything about it. His opinions matter to her but she has to put her foot down and let him know that you both are taking his suggestions into consideration. You can also say we have a long way to go so for now we are not planning yet. But continue to plan your dream wedding as he does not have to know.

I agree with the others. Stop sharing details. If he tries the “if you do this than I won’t be a part of it” , tell him you’re sorry you feel that way but it’s your wedding & if he doesn’t want to be apart of it, than that’s his decision.

View Quoted Comment Amanzano014,
I will continue to plan my dream wedding. How are your wedding plans going?

View Quoted Comment For me that's not hard, but for my fiancé it will be.

View Quoted Comment That's a good way to go about things.

Hi I am so sorry your fbil is doing this, If he says no to anything you say put your foot down easier said than done and say well thank you for your opinon but were doing it this way if you feel like you need to miss the wedding because we choose to have the bridal ranch than I am sorry you feel that way you will be missed, happy planning and congrats

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the advice. And thank you. How is your wedding planning going?

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It's going lol I am getting married in 4/23/2022 so got a ways just getting through the holidays

He’s not your wedding planner. And he’s not paying. What’ll you get from him being in control? -not your dreams/plans executed
-maybe a $200 gift.
Sorry to sound a little cynical about it. But you gotta be firm. It’s not his wedding or his money