In need of advice / help me please!

So then a few weeks went by I talked to her about it and she apologized. I ended up going dress shopping and finding my dress, so I decided I wanted all of my girls there to say yes to the dress with me, my best friend ( the girl I’m talking about ) went along with my other maid of honor and some of my bridesmaids went. A month or so went by and she has started looking at dresses I went to one of her appointments with her and she looked stunning in everything she tried on! I then had to go home to do some stuff with my mom, she went off to another appointment and she called me on FaceTime crying over this dress she had found and she showed me it was super pretty but, it looks almost identical to my dress besides not having sleeves and not having the same detail on the front, I just feel very uncomfortable by this considering she is getting married before me since we decided based on our venue to do our wedding in October, I love her dearly but I feel the need to stand up for myself and I don’t know how to word it the way I would like to. I feel like she has taken everything that I want for our wedding and is trying to duplicate it the best she can :/ please give me some advice.

I would share very minimal details with her as she sounds like a very jealous person who just wants to copy you and when she's not doing that she wants to tear you down.

I agree, I would just stop sharing details about your wedding with her.

Stop sharing details. Let the similarities go. This friend is clearly jealous and know that she has to drag her fiance down the aisle. She has much bigger problems than you, and she's not coping well.

Agreed to stop sharing details. And if she asks about anything ("what color scheme are you doing?" "What photographer do you have?" Etc) you respond with either "I'm not sure yet" or "it's a surprise!!"


It's unfortunate, but many brides face this to some extent or another. Maybe let mutual friends in on your plan, too, so she doesn't get your info out of them when she can't get it from you

Definitely keep the details of your wedding quiet. Either tell her that you haven't gotten to something yet, are still weighing options, or that it'll be a surprise. This way, she can't compare, judge, or try to one-up you.

Wow not only did she put a damper on your engagement night and made you feel some type of way. Because her boyfriend turn now fiancee didn't propose when you did. And made what supposed to be a very happy time for you she made it grey skies for you. I am so sorry that happened to you but it happened to me too. But then put more salt on your moment but now your ring. Well my dear I think that now since she is engaged now with then the same period of time. What its sound like to me that she wasnt when happy for your because it didn't happen to her. She's not begin a very good friend and trying to do her wedding around the same time as you really unfair. Because every chance she gets she will do whatever to take the light way from you. So I would say dont take her dress shopping or the real important decisions because. She will be there to support you with her stealing your shine. Please try to enjoy your engagement and wedding planning

Oh my gosh this is terrible. Im so sorry you have to go through this. Its unfortunate that the two of you cant go through this exciting process together without jealousy and her trying to one up everything you do . I agree with the ladies, I wouldnt tell her a thing.