Including your children in the ceremony

I’ve known couples do a unity ceremony that has involved the kids. I’ve also heard of instances where the ‘incoming’ spouse has said vows to their new step-children - although to me that feels more appropriate when it’s solely younger children, rather than one who is already an adult.

A key thing is to find something that all four of you appreciate and want to take part in. Do your kids have any ideas?

My 10-year old son will be walking me down the aisle and my 2 year old son will be carrying a "Daddy, Here Comes Mommy!" sign. We're also doing a unity candle part with them involved.

My mother and step father got married when I was 8 and as part of the ceremony they had a portion where they presented me with a necklace that had 3 rings intertwined after the priest had blessed it and said a special family prayer.