Independent couples out there?!

View Quoted Comment That was very generous of your mom!!!!!

View Quoted Comment Hi Sexypoodle! I couldn't agree more and good for you.

We paid for everything ourselves -- though my mom did surprise me by helping with the cost of my dress alterations. Our families would've loved to help, but neither are in a financial position to do so.

Well we’re an older couple and are paying for it ourselves.
Many of my friends’ kids are getting married none of them are footing the entire bill but contributing.
It varies how much though - some are still putting kids through college so can’t do as much. A few of my friends are dealing with divorce and really can’t give cash but are doing a lot of footwork to help.

I guess I am the odd MOG, we are giving our son and future daughter in law 1/2 of the money for the wedding and her parents are paying the other 1/2. Full gift no strings attached, because we want them to have wedding of their dreams, and I was thrilled when she asked me to come along to look at venues and bands, since I only have sons it was a treat for me. I love listening about their vision for their wedding, I never tire of hearing about it.

View Quoted Comment Okay, thanks for sharing your experience, Samantha!

View Quoted Comment Oh wow. My MIL couldn't care any less lol. She has three sons, no daughters; but FH's brothers have several kids and left them with her to raise them. So, she has a lot on her plate.

When we first got engaged, we had discussed a small, nontraditional wedding with just immediate family and some close friends. We knew that was what we could afford, especially in our high cost of living area. When we told our parents of our plan, his parents and my parents offered us money for a more traditional wedding. We split the cost in thirds, with each couple (us, my parents, and his parents) paying about $7000 each. We included them in wedding planning, but we were fortunate that they were merely there for support and the money didn't come with strings. We genuinely wanted them involved in the process and valued their opinions as we toured venues and such, since we are close with them.

View Quoted Comment Hi Hannah, that was generous of both sets of parents. Best wishes.

My mom bought my dress and dad paid for the photographer. it was great help! FH and I paid the rest.

View Quoted Comment Hi Biaani! Thanks for sharing your experience

My fiancé and I will be paying for our wedding ourselves too.

View Quoted Comment Hi there! Thanks for sharing your experience.

We are paying for everything ourselves too

View Quoted Comment Hi Miya, thanks for sharing. That is indeed not the norm.

We'll be paying for everything ourselves too.

View Quoted Comment Hi Gloria, that is somewhat rare. Good for you!

View Quoted Comment It was! I also opted for something less than $1000 cause I was budgeting to pay that amount for the dress myself. I’m so happy we paid for the wedding ourselves, cause we were able to gift the immediate family a mini vacation the way we wanted it to be, basically all inclusive 😎

View Quoted Comment Awwvery sweet. Thanks for sharimg your experiences.

$19,000... hahaha. I wish!


What they don't take into account is.. the bride with no parents (deceased or otherwise not around/involved). It drives me insane. Every time I turn around I read the "bride's family is expected to pay for that". My FH family is LOADED but not contributing a dime, as my (non-existent) family is expected to pay for my family.
So I guess that means I'll be paying for it!