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Alissa
Just Said Yes September 2017

Informal "Bridesmaids" // Calling all creatives and poets!

Alissa, on May 11, 2016 at 1:02 PM Posted in Planning 1 12
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Hi all! So, my fiancé and I are not having a traditional wedding in any way. In order to have the honeymoon of our dreams and to save money for our house, we are doing a Justice of the Peace Ceremony at the courthouse of his hometown, and then having a reception-type party. An "I Do BBQ" if you will. Smiley winking Anyway, although Im not having a traditional wedding ceremony, I would still like to have my closest friends and sister involved in the big day. To help me keep it together, to plan and get ready together. No coordinated dresses required. Im wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to ask these girls to be my "bridesmaids" in a way that isn't so traditional and typical. Maybe a creatively unique phrase rather than asking them to be "bridesmaids" so i don't cause any confusion, and a cute poem to go along with the gift I'll give when I ask them.

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Latest activity by GaPeach, on May 12, 2016 at 3:36 PM
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    Expert December 2016
    Pahina2016 ·
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    I would just ask them if they'd like to get ready with you. no need for a title, a cute poem, or presents.

    ETA- when you do that stuff it can be misleading. no one is required to help you plan.

    a good friend will help you 'keep it together' regardless of a title. so really all you need to ask them is if they'd like to get dressed with you. this is also all you would be asking of a bridesmaid too, they just don't have to stand up there.

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  • LadyMonk
    Master September 2014
    LadyMonk ·
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    I agree. Just ask. Will one or both be your witnesses?

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    Please join me in a "Getting Ready" party

    There's really not much more for them to do but help you in to your dress if you like and enjoy some drinks and snacks with you that day.

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  • Erin381
    Master September 2016
    Erin381 ·
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    I am not doing a BP and I told the people I wanted there that I would want them there - and than invited them to get nails done a head of time.

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    VIP September 2016
    MrsInSeptember ·
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    I think I'd be confused as your friend. I would speak to them individually and let them know your expectations- are you expecting a bachelorette party , the girls to be in photos, that kind of stuff. If they are helping you I think it sounds like a bridal party.

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  • AMW
    Master September 2016
    AMW ·
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    Don't ask them early. Wait until much, MUCH closer to your wedding. Read all the horror stories on WW to understand why.

    http://ladyfingersletterpress.com/products/will-you-be-my-bridesmaid


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  • Rebecca
    Master November 2015
    Rebecca ·
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    Unique phrases and poems will make it more confusing. Just ask them if they'd like to get ready with you that day.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    "I Do Crew" could be a cute name! But you'll definitely have to break it down for them Smiley smile "The wedding will be super casual and we're not having a traditional bridal party, but I'd love it if you guys would get ready with me on the wedding day! Definitely want to be surrounded by my favorite people"

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  • Alissa
    Just Said Yes September 2017
    Alissa ·
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    I understand I will have to break it down for them but WWLynnie that was exactly what I was looking for! Thats so cute, "I Do Crew" love it. Will definitely be using that! My crew to hang out with the day of and get our hair and makeup done together, totally stress free.

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  • Alyssa
    Beginner October 2017
    Alyssa ·
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    There are little pizza shaped necklaces and bracelets on Etsy. You could always ask them to be a "pizza" your day. (I like puns and I like annoying FH with them even more.)

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  • Julie
    Devoted March 2017
    Julie ·
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    No cutesy poems. They are always so cringeworthy

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    Dedicated July 2016
    GaPeach ·
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    I love the "I Do Crew"! And the pizza necklaces are a great idea too, very funny and cute. You could get them all really blinged out horrible baseball caps with I Do Crew and take some pics with y'all all in gangsta poses Smiley smile

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