Interracial Brides/Couples

Thank all of you. And I cannot express how much its made me love him deeper and harder because of this. Like I tell him all the time, ignorance is bliss. That's why we pray together as a family, couple and alone for each other and especially for those around us who have those words and thoughts about us and any other couple in our shoes. I am an honest believer in God and He will judge and handle them accordingly.

@Kit I can't believe that couple said that!

@Kit ugh I would have been furious. I've had someone say something similar like really I'm only with FH so I won't have dark skinned kids. I'm proud to be dark skinned but let's also be clear a lot of black men want light skin girls. I don't know how many times I've been told I'm pretty for a dark skinned girl ummmm wtf does that mean, or my light skin friends get all the attention growing up and I'm told I'm too dark. No matter if our future kids are light or dark they will be loved all the same and taught that everyone is beautiful.

I can believe it @Adore because people are so stuck on color that they can't see past that. Its ridiculous to even fathom but it exist. Even 2015 it still exists.

I'm mixed of Hispanic, Asian, and Caucasian (fair yellow toned skin and dark features) and FH is black. I never noticed anyone until FH pointed it out once. He's much more observant than me, I'm usually in my own little world lol but now I do see it sometimes.

We get looks usually from much older white women and young black women LoL oh well, sorry haters!!!

It used to irk the hell outta me but now I just keep it moving.

@Alicia, I was told I was pretty for a dark-skinned girl by guys who were way darker than I am. It saddens me that we as a people are still so insecure we believe that light is better.

@Simple, I was told by several women in my family (I am the darkest female on my mother's side) tell me to work at dating a very light or what man so that I won't bring anymore shame to our family.

Oh Alicia, I get the "You're pretty for a dark skinned/black girl" all the time. FH's father went as far to add "smart for a black girl". I'm really sorry that we have to deal with these things still today.

I'm so sorry you have to put up with that. My H is white but my sister has dated black guys before. She said she would get looks sometimes and also some black girls would tell her that she was stealing him away. She also said some older folks from both races would say stuff sometimes. This was in Georgia. It's sad that in 2015 people still have problem with interracial couples.

But what people don't understand is that you cannot fix ignorance and stupidity. I have it hard as well as a light skinned black girl. I must think I'm all that, but in reality I'm not, I have self-esteem issues. Its rough especially when you have other races downing you but when your own race does it worse. That type of shit hits the core.

I was thinking last night about this thread as I went to sleep lol. The one thing that I have experienced with friends and family is people questioning me in a way why I choose to date outside of my race. People will imply that you have a fetish or that you are objectifying the person. That has really bothered me. My first couple of boyfriends when I was younger were white but then I dated a few latinos in a row. My mom asked me once why I didn't want to date white men. I was like wtf, it wasn't a conscious choice. Has anyone experienced this or worried about this in their relationships?

This made me sad to read. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I can't imagine the hurt you feel. Interracial couples are very common where I live. People are ridiculous. Shit like this pisses me off so bad.

Yes!!! @Simple my FH husband friend asked him that about me. My family doesn't care as long as I'm happy!! My closest and best friends have always told me that they could see me with a white man or another race besides black because of the fact that I would seem/be happier and by dammit they were so right. Don't get me wrong, I loved my exes but my FH is the ONE and I would not change it for the world. And it doesn't matter if no one else gets it, we do and that's all that counts.

Holy shit. It's so sad to here this. I'm so sorry. I don't have any words of advice. It's just goes to show how much more work our country needs to reach equality for everyone regardless of race, gender, sex, ability, etc. sending you positive thoughts.

It does piss me off @Marisslee but all you can do is ignore it and keep walking.

This really upsets me. My dad is originally from Atlanta and my mom from Lebanon...none of my grandparents had an issue with this when they married 38 years ago, but my dad's aunt would ask my grandma about my dad's "bastard mutt children." My older sister was born 3 years after my parents' wed, it's so maddening that she tried to make the insult more hateful than the sentiment already had intended. My grandmother (or my father) didn't speak to her after that. I know it's a supposed to be a more open-minded world now, but I definitely feel for all you ladies!

Though I am sorry that A you had to deal with this and B that people are still like this, I am not surprised. The KKK and neonazi type groups are still going strong all over the country. About a year ago, posters were placed around my town talking about the "blacks taking over" our town. They were trying to organize groups to stop the invasion (their words). This isn't the only place it happens.

Most of our looks and comments are from other black people, especially African american women. Most of my childhood bullying was done by African american girls that said I was "trying to be white" or "talked white" or "dressed white" or I "wasn't black enough". Like WTF does any of that even mean?!?!

I would punch whoever calls him an N lover or my children tar. That really pissed me off! Then again that is exactly how some ignorant, racist people are expecting you to act. That's tough. I would so cut those people out of my live immediately....and i hope they're not invited to your wedding!!

@OP Have you seen the movie "Something New"? It's my favorite movie about an interracial relationship. I love the message that people don't need to be boxed in by racial boundaries when it comes to finding love. It's already hard to find a good partner, I would never have the experience of happiness and joy that I have with my partner if I had limited myself to only dating white men.