Introverted Groom Catholic Wedding

Does he drink? Maybe have him drink a glass of wine a head of time to loosen him up haha.

There's no way around standing up in front of people in the church, but won't you be facing away from the guests for much of the time during the service? You could remind him about that. If he doesn't have to look at people, that might feel less nerve-racking.

Other than the ceremony itself, there are no other required "center of attention" things. You can just decide not to do a first dance. Or, if he wants to do it but just have less pressure, have your DJ invite your guests to join you on the dance floor, or just arrange to have your parents/bridal party/siblings dance, too.

You can also easily forgo official cake cutting, toasts, speeches, etc. None of those are required to get married, so you should only choose to do the parts you both want. Also reassure him that if he feels overwhelmed during the reception, he should just tell you and he can go take a break in a quiet room for a minute.

So I’ve been in countless plays and have zero issues with public speaking—yet before I walked down the aisle (alone), I was overcome with odd nerves. The only cure was to lock eyes with my number one person, my husband to be. Encourage your husband to focus on just you whenever he gets really nervous, and discuss if either of you really want any of those extras like first dance, etc. Forgoing some traditions may really help, too!

Have him take some Benadryl. I have anxiety around huge crowds ( think concert) and i take 2 Benadryl a half hour before being around all the crowds.. then in 4 hrs i take another 2... instead of making me drowsy/sleepy it helps me feel “normal” and not anxious and i can enjoy being around people

View Quoted Comment Yes! All of this and maybe remind his best friend how these things are hard for him and have him keep an eye on him. When he feels a bit overwhelmed they can just step away for a few mins. My daughter is dealing with the same thing with her fiancé. They aren’t doing a cake cutting and they will do the first dance and ask the bridal party to join after a short time. Focusing on the bride during the ceremony is also key. Tell him not to think about anyone else. Good luck.

Skip the first dance or anything else that will make him uncomfortable that's not 100% necessary (you HAVE to stand up front in church, there's not much getting around that) But you could also have him enter from the side quietly and not process up!