Invitation List Drama!

For your first question, yes, I would give all single wedding party members a plus one, and invite the significant others of wedding party members who aren't single. Your wedding party is a part of your day, and it would be a kind gesture to allow them to bring a guest.


For your second question, I would also invite them. There unfortunately isn't really a polite way to invite just one person and not their significant other.

Anyone in a relationship, regardless of length of relationship should be invited with their partner by name if they are together at the time invites are being sent. Is there a specific reason you do not want your mom's boyfriend or uncle's wife at your wedding? As far as plus ones for truly single guests, they are optional. People typically extend them to the bridal party because they do so much for the couple in investing time and money into the event, but it is ok to not offer them. I would maybe talk to them about it first. Also, you've still got awhile before your wedding, so they may start dating someone by the time invitations go out.

Unfortunately significant others are a package deal. It is rude to tell people their spouse or bf/gf can't attend. You have to invite both (and pray the person doesn't show) or neither.


Plus ones are complete random strangers. They are not a person's significant other or someone they are dating for any period of time who is invited automatically. They are always option and even in non-plague times couples do not allow plus ones because weddings are expensive and they do not want to spend money on people they will never see again who don't care about them.
9 times out of 10 your guests will know someone else there and be able to enjoy themselves without bringing a stranger.

View Quoted Comment My uncle’s wife is a major part of the reason why my parents are no longer together. And as far as my mother’s boyfriend, I’ve just always felt negative energy from him and I do not want that on my wedding day. My father has also expressed the fact that he would be super uncomfortable with him there. I mean obviously he’s a grown man and should suck it up but...I do not want negative energy either.

View Quoted Comment To be honest, unless someone is in physical danger by the attendance of another, I don't think there's circumstances that justify excluding a significant other of a close family member. You will have 150 people at your wedding. I guarantee you will spend limited time with these 2 individuals. I had about 115 people at my wedding and did not spend much time with any 1 person other than my husband after the ceremony. Before the ceremony it was my mom and bridal party pretty much exclusively. Make sure dad is seated away from the others and move on. Because how are your mom and your uncle going to feel when you tell them they can't bring their significant others to an event celebrating your relationship?

View Quoted Comment Only invite people you want in attendance. Do not invite anyone out of obligation to please others. As long as significant others are invited, the only people you need to please with the guest list are you and your fiance. Yes they might get lost in the crowd but if you really don't want someone (a couple as a social unit or an unattached individual) there, why are they invited in the first place? Don't like aunt and uncle? Don't invite them, but it's a package deal.

You invite couples together, or leave both off your lists. That includes members of the wedding party. If they have an exclusive dating relationship, or spouse, at invitations time, you invite them as a couple. But ones newly together after invitations go out, or dates who do not have an exclusive relationship, those are truly plus ones. You need not give those to any guests, including your wedding party, if you do not want to for any reason.

I'm gonna go against the grain and say go for it as far as excluding those that bring you bad vibes. Just keep in mind that your uncle many not come at all of his wife isn't welcome. Idk your mom but I would imagine many moms of the bride would still come if their bf isn't invited. My mom's bf is not welcome at my wedding. He has no filter and is quick to tell me he dislikes my dress and other things. Don't have the patience for that s word on my wedding day lol.

Agree with the others- your bridal party get a plus one. Unless you don’t invite your mom & uncle, which will cause a bigger issue, your hands are tied.

View Quoted Comment I feel the same way about my moms bf. He is just very judgmental and that affects my moms actions and ways so I just rather not. I keep saying maybe I could just avoid/ignore them if they come but why would I want to avoid ppl at my own wedding?

View Quoted Comment I guess majority says invite and just avoid them. Which I guess makes the most sense. I guess just hope they don’t come!! Lol.

View Quoted Comment Right!!!!!! It's your wedding and do YOU.