Hi everyone,
My fiancee and I are planning our wedding and we're at the very early stages. We wrote out our guest list and I felt quite happy with the end-result. Except that my fiancee mentioned that the majority of those guests will have the option of bringing a plus one. I didn't expect to account for this as we made the list to include people's automatic plus one's, such as married folk or long-term relationships, and such. Here is an example of what our list looks like:
James and Maria, possibly toddler (they are a couple and both are our friends)
Alex and Samantha (they are a couple and both are our friends)
Mom (she is single)
Brother and his girlfriend
Fiancee's mom (also single)
Aunt Vivian and Uncle Phil (fiancee's family)
Carlton (cousin)
Hilary (cousin)
Ashley (cousin)
Fiancee's dad and his wife
Bob (friend)
Emily (friend)
Here is my confusion. We are friends with the established couples, who just so happen to live together, so naturally they will be invited together. But does that mean they also get a plus 1? Because I assume it wouldn't be fair to offer a plus 1 to someone and not to someone else. Also, for the cousins and their parents--they're coming as a family unit (the entire banks family)...so would each cousin bring a plus 1? Would that mean they're all driving seperately, because how can all and plus 1's fit in one car? Also, our moms can totally bring dates if they want to because I wouldn't want them to feel weird seeing their ex spouses so that is full plus 1 greenlight in my opinion. But then what about my single friends Bob and Emily?, if I allow the cousins to bring plus 1s and moms, then I need to be fair. And soon everyone has a plus 1 but I'm back to square one, does that mean couples get a plus 1? Like even fiancee's dad and stepmom? I don't think I'm making sense but as you can see, it's causing me a lot of confusion because I'm not certain of how the outcome will look like. And finally, an actual question: If everyone is given the opportunity to bring a plus 1, how many people (percentage-wise) do you think will actually bring a plus 1?
Please be understanding that I am genuinely confused, I am not trying to offend or upset anyone. My fiancee tried to explain it to me this morning, but I got overwhelmed because it was still incredibly confusing to me.
